Confronting Your Enemy is Loving Your Enemy
Face the bully
I am sick and tired of all the tripe we’ve listened to over the years from professionals, teachers, parents, priests, pastors, media, culture, and the man or woman down the street who assume they know better than us.
Sure even the man who was abusive to me years ago proceeded to give me advice on how to heal. How arrogant is that?
I’m done listening to others. Most of them haven’t a clue and they only lead you into more and more danger.
Here are some examples:
My mum used to say..
“Try to see the good in everyone.”
What about..
“Try to see the bad in everyone.” Now that might have been helpful!
Or
“There’s always hope.”
How about.. Maybe there isn’t hope in the other person ever changing.
At least then you can move on instead of waiting around hoping they will change.
Others say:
“Go to a counsellor to get the anger out.”
Why?
It’s better to confront the damn problem courageously instead of trying to get a counsellor to understand your story and then support you in it.
Many counsellors haven’t a clue what they are even talking about anyway.
Confront the person who is hurting you and if they are violent, get backup or call the police. You can also confront someone by email from a long distance. That’s not cowardly — it’s wise because you are safe and you also have written evidence of what was said so they can’t deny it later, which is what abusive people usually do.
All this stupid advice we’ve been given is disempowering and turning good decent people into cowards.
Face the bully.
Learn how to challenge them and call them out on their vile behavior.
Jesus didn’t always turn the other cheek.
What about when he called the Pharisees, hypocrites?
“But woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you shut the kingdom of heaven in people’s faces. For you neither enter yourselves nor allow those who would enter to go in.”
— Matthew 23:13–14
What about when he got angry in the temple and turned over the tables?
“Then Jesus entered the temple and drove out all who were selling and buying in the temple, and he overturned the tables of the money changers and the seats of those who sold doves. He said to them, “It is written,
‘My house shall be called a house of prayer,’
but you are making it a den of robbers.”— Matthew 21:12–13
I don’t listen to them anymore.
Trust yourself and ask God for help. He has the best ideas and the good part is that He gives a solution that is even helpful to your enemy!
God loves your enemy so leave it to Him as we find it hard to love them.
— Final thoughts
We have been fed a lot of nonsense for centuries. It’s about time we took our power back.
Let’s get some truth back into our society and stop listening to the nonsense that doesn’t work.
“You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor,” But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? And if you greet only your own people, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that? Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.
