But doing for whom? Special by whose standards? If yours then it is still self validation, validated by its worth by your own standards. If you’re inevitably drawn to a validation of some kind, why limit it to yourself, or, significant others?
Your advice, though well intended, still maintains the faith in ‘being for others’ and thus falls short of its own premise by way of its delivery: an advice. Your ought implies a can; a ‘can-satisfy’, but not a ‘can satisfy its promise as a possibility’ (discovery) but a ‘can satisfy the readers as they are’ (merchantry). Poetry, like music, thrives in the possibility of new ears by its delivery, poets simply enjoy the privilege of being the first ones to be surprised.