Your husband quite nailed it there I must say. And people tend to usually make the socialization argument that that’s what makes men feel this way. I’d say it’s instinctual as say a trans woman trying to put on roles and behaviours conforming to her identity. There is some evolutionary psychology at play at this point.

Also, trying to look at it from a more technical standpoint- less testosterone in men leads to depression. Testosterone rises when achievements are accomplished. And to also increase testosterone accomplishments must be made. It’s a self virtuous cycle. Emasculation tends to lower a man’s testosterone levels. It may manifest itself as the hurting of ‘ego’, but at a bodily level this is what happens. A woman’s release from depression is the vent, while a man’s release is the can-do attitude. Aggressive sports is miraculous as anti-depressant for men as it increases their testosterone. Trying to change ‘socialization’ can only get you this far. Cause if it’s all socialization, trans individuals wouldn’t feel their depression recede because of hormone therapy.

It’s time we understand that the genders require therapy that conforms to their inherent nature.