What Is The Red Zone?

There is no feeling like being a college freshman. You are pursuing a higher education, moving to a new place, and are on your own for the first time. Fall semester is filled with parties, tailgating, rush week, and many more social events. The excitement and newness are exhilarating. You are finally coming into your own. While you should celebrate this new phase of life and enjoy every moment, it is also important to be aware of this time on campus.

While both women and men from ages 18–24 are at an increased risk of…


We live in an age where anyone from middle schoolers to grandparents are active on social media. Today, most people have smartphones, a tv, or access to the internet. Media is all around us. With such a broad spectrum, there is media content around nearly every topic, issue, or situation one could think of. While this can be a great thing, it can also be dangerous, particularly for survivors of sexual violence.

So what are the negative effects of media?

The main goal for directors of movies and tv shows is to develop content that people will want to watch…


For many, “living mindfully” can seem like nothing more than memorizing mantras and striving towards an unattainable goal. Yet for those living with trauma, mindfulness can play an important role in healing. Individuals recovering from trauma often have feelings of helplessness and anxiety. It can leave us feeling paralyzed and overwhelmed. Survivors may get looped into a vicious cycle of emotional triggers and negative thinking causing them to feel stuck. Living mindfully can help us break that loop.

What is mindfulness?

While living mindfully has been practiced in the Hindu religion since 2300 BC, it has only recently become popular…


Happy Pride month! Every June, people across America come together to celebrate the LGBTQIA+ community and the impact these folx have had on our society. But when did Pride Month begin? The very first pride march was held on June 28, 1970 in New York City on the first year anniversary of the Stonewall Uprising, the event which is often considered the start of the pride movement. In 1999, President Bill Clinton officially declared June to be “Gay and Lesbian Pride Month” which in 2016 turned into LGBT Pride Month and in 2021 LGBTQ+ Pride Month. …


In light of current events, the need to address sexual harassment in the workplace has become evident. The most recent allegations against Governor Cuomo of New York have sparked much controversy. Three former aides, a former health policy advisor, a member of the Executive Chamber staff, and a member of the 2020 Biden campaign have accused Cuomo of sexual harassment. Though he has denied these allegations, there is now an external investigation taking place. In the face of the Covid-19 pandemic, Cuomo was looked to for wisdom and a voice of reason. Now, politicians are calling for him to step…


Words have power. By that, I am talking in particular about words used to describe those who have experienced sexual assault and the certain connotations that they carry. The two most common words to describe individuals who have faced sexual violence include “victim” and “survivor.”

Classically, a person who has experienced assault would be referred to as a “sexual assault victim,” but that language has begun to change over the years. Now, it is typically more common to hear someone in this situation referred to as a “sexual assault survivor.”

Why have communities and organizations, like Our Wave, decided to…


With Valentine’s Day right around the corner, the expectation of intimacy may arise between you and your partner. For some, this can be a difficult thing to process, and the holiday can be triggering in and of itself. For others, expectations can lead to feelings of obligation- something that can also be triggering, particularly if you are a survivor of trauma or violence. If you are feeling uneasy or uncomfortable about sexual expectations or intimacy, know this is not uncommon and you are not alone.

Sexual violence in its most basic sense is a violation of human connection. Thus it…


Our world is often chaotic and uncertain. To find comfort in the chaos we create ideas about how the world must work. We rely on our worldview for a sense of safety.

“[A worldview] is a collection of deeply held beliefs about how we interpret and experience the world.”

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“Everything happens for a reason,” for example, offers comfort because it allows one to believe that despite the chaos and uncertainty, our world is overall orderly and structured. It implies there’s a bigger picture that gives it all meaning. It gives the bad stuff a purpose.

So it makes sense…


Sexual Violence within the Military

Those who fight for us also need people to fight for them.

The military physically protects us and sacrifices for us, yet some service members are unsafe within the confines of the military system. According to the Department of Defense, almost a quarter of all women in the military experience sexual harassment, and more than 20,000 soldiers were sexually assaulted in the 2018 fiscal year. Women makeup about 20 percent of the military, but are the targets of 63 percent of assaults. While much of the media and statistics talk about sexual violence for women in the military, it is…


What To Do After An Incident of Sexual Assault

Healing means that you are not alone, recognizing that even though our experiences may be different, we are all connected.

What just happened to me? Did I dream that? Why didn’t I say something? I just felt so frozen. Its not my fault…but is it? I could have…I should have…but how? Nausea. I must hold him accountable. I must make sure he doesn’t do it again. But what can I do? Do I even have any evidence? I feel so dirty. But I shouldn’t shower right? That’s what they tell you not to do…right? I just feel so alone. Should…

Grace at Our Wave

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