The Reason Why I Stopped Caring What People Think About Me

I simply do not want to fit in. So many people my age (19) are focused on following the crowd with current trends and styles. My experiences in school have shown me that looking to fit in with the crowd is just…fucking boring.

I want to be happy and successful by being me. That means, I’m going to follow my passions and express myself a lot more. To do this, I need to slow down and think what passions I actually want to follow.

Not about what my mum and dad want me to achieve.

Not what my friends think is “cool”.

Just think about my passions, beliefs, interests and so on. My mission for the rest of this year is to just figure shit out. What do I want to work towards?

Then it’s the second most important question. How?

How do I, in 6 months, achieve a, b, c?

How do I achieve x, y, z in 20 years?

I am going to develop a truly tailored and selfish plan to help me achieve the goal that I am passionate about.

Something that I have only just recently learnt is the fact that no one even cares. Your friends barely care and people who don’t know you personally couldn’t really give two shits about what you do. Please do correct me if you think I’m wrong.

The whole point of me starting this blog is to provide you with value, so here is how I am going to get my shit and how you can too.

Get to know yourself

It starts with self-awareness. Get that drummed into your head.

It starts with self-awareness.
It starts with self-awareness.
It starts with self-awareness.

I even wrote about self-awareness in a previous post.

In that post, I wrote a very quick overview on what self-awareness is and how you can become more self-aware. Definitely, one to check out.

Nonetheless, Gary Vaynerchuk says it best:

“Self-awareness allows people to recognise what things they do best so they can then go hard on those aspects of their life. It also helps you accept your weaknesses.”

Like most things, you are just starting to do, start small. Take 20 minutes out of your long 24 hour day to reflect on yourself. Develop your understanding of what you want to achieve in life.

To be honest with myself, I don’t know what I want and want and don’t want yet and I am okay with that because I know I’m young and have time to figure shit out. My real worry is if I hit the age of 50 and still haven't figured out what it is I want to do with myself.

From a young age, I placed a lot of judgement on things I simply didn’t understand and would never think about doing. But as of late, I have developed a new mindset where I just take the time to do different things. Things I would never have done a few years back. Since my mindset has changed, I’ve had some more small successes and opportunities presented to me.

But it is key to let go of those prejudgments that whirl through your head when you hear an opportunity to just get yourself out there. You never know the series of event me that could show when you just try something new.

Express yourself

Personally, I don’t feel as though I have ever gone out of my way to act differently for the sole purpose to please other people. I tend to say and do the things I want to do.

As my self-awareness develops, though actively wanting to know myself, I’m consciously realising that the only person I need to impress is me in 10 years.

In 2027, I want to look back to all the years in between and say “I did it well. Now to impress 2037 Owen”.

Again, it does really boil down to letting go of what you think other people’s perceptions are of you.

Why do we, as humans, care so much?

If the people around you engage with you positively and you have a great relationship with them because you’re being true to who you are, isn’t that more meaningful than surrounding yourself with people who don’t know the real you because you’re covering it up?

There may be some people reading this who are covering to real them. To you my advice is simple. Just be you.

I am striving for my version of greatness and will not stop until I have reached it and only recently am I realising that I am letting what other people think of me, get in my way.

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