I can ask that question, & none of your pat answers work for me. I gave up finishing the last yr. of college, married to a potential teacher, who had to move to do student teaching. Had a baby, never got back to school, & lived on 1 income, teacher’s wages for 32 yr., 17 of it out in the middle of nowhere on a farm while he taught in a sm. school. I did it all; cook, bake, sew ALL our own clothes, garden, hang out the wash, yard work, tend the chickens, goats (I milked in the evening), cows, tried to make a home out of rotten, uninsullated old farm houses, only shopped (a 60 mi. trip to get to town) once a month. I gave up everything, being “super mom/wife” only to be dumped after 32 yr. of marriage when he committed adultery (I didn’t know) & divorced me. I have been alone for 20 yr., in failing health, with no one. Where is MY reward? I gave up everything to be the “perfect” wife, only to be thrown away for a new model. I worked myself so hard on that farm I lost my health, had multiple surgeries, & am now disabled & in chronic pain. So, this is my “already have it” reward? No rainbow or pot of gold here. Just the sad reality of how life turns out sometimes, when you had other plans.