[Note: This piece was written just as the lockdown was put into place]

She looks so small on my phone screen, as I facetime her across 5000 miles. For the first time in a long time, I see her face worried and anxious and her vulnerability so palpable. …


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I looked over on her Instagram the other day and saw that she had another tattoo. Hidden away on her abdomen, a beautifully inked design. It started with one small one on her ankle, and then on her arm, and now this. I don’t know how many others she has. I have only found out about them through her Instagram images.

‘Did you get another tattoo’, I messaged her, sounding as casual and calm as I could. ‘Yes’, came back the abrupt response. I know her far too well, and she knows me too. I know that she is expecting me to react strongly, give her another ‘lecture’ as she calls them, and she probably knows me well enough to know that I don’t approve of it. …


Motherhood and Race

I was born in India, and I have lived in the UK for almost 20 years, first coming here as a single parent to study for my Masters and a PhD. I have an older daughter, who was born in India bur has grown up in the UK. And, I have toddler twins who are mixed-heritage and do not have such dark skin as mine or their older sister. I didn’t talk about race with my older daughter, not explicitly at least. I told her stories of women who could do it all, and who took on the world no matter what their race or cultural heritage. No barrier is big enough. This is the message that I gave her in words and in actions. …

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Pragya Agarwal

Author of ‘SWAY: Unravelling Unconscious Bias’ ORDER: https://amzn.to/30Xe7NA Behavioral and Data Scientist. Journalist. Race Educator, 2x TEDx speaker

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