Lesson
There are easy things in life to learn and to figure out; like how to make a PB&J sandwich. One thing I’ve learned in life is not to chase after people anymore. If they like spending time with me, then they will do so. If not,then I am perfectly content with my own company. So, the point of this article is to mainly tell you a story, and also give my opinion on something.
I am a 19 year old, recent high school graduate, work a full time job, pay bills and balance my social life. I’ve never had a boyfriend, and I can honestly say I didn’t know why until here recently. I was talking to a guy that new my brothers and my dad really well. He was a sweet guy,and we had a great connection..until I brought up him coming over and hanging out with my family and I. He made up an excuse and we carried on. I took into consideration maybe he was nervous or he really “didn’t feel good” that day. So, a few weeks later I asked again, he again made another excuse of why he couldn’t come to my house, but how I could come to his house. Nothing he was saying was really adding up, so I finally got tired of it and moved on. He obviously didn’t like that. Texting me 6–7 times in a couple of minutes. Anyway, after a few days I think he finally got the idea.
Part two of this story starts with another boy I was texting. We were only friends, so in my mind asking him to come over was no big deal. I mean girls can have guy friends, right? Obviously not. One night I cooked dinner at my house, and asked him if he wanted to come over, eat, and watch movies. I knew he had a long weekend so I expected the answer to be no. He did say no, but only because he had asked who was going to be at my house at the time. I told him my brother and his fiancé of course. He REALLY didn’t like that. He immediately changed his toon, and had an excuse of why he didn’t want to come over.
So the point of these two stories is to raise the question of why are boys afraid to come over when I live with a male? In my opinion, it sounds like they are scared and aren’t coming over “just to hang out”. That really irks me. Why continue to talk to me when you know I’m looking for a relationship, and not someone who can use me when I’m home alone? Guys, in all due respect, please don’t waste my time. Please get your thoughts together and think twice before you try to come over to my house and not expect to meet my family. Maybe some day I can actually meet a man, and not a boy. 👌🏼