How to make your life for you

Prasanna Kumar
Aug 27, 2017 · 3 min read

If you could get just one thing through your head, life would be so much better it would turn your whole world upside down.

Before I tell you what that one thing is, I need to set the mood. Have you ever been in a dylamo, where you realized that everything you thought you knew was wrong? Well, you’re about to. Are you ready? Are you sure? Good.

Success doesn’t come from reading books or blogs or posts like this, Just to be clear so there’s no misunderstanding, there is not one person on God’s green earth — or in the virtual world, for that matter — who can change, how things turn out for you. Not any single one. Except you.

All that popular stuff you read about becoming rich, famous, or successful is complete and totally Bull Shit. That’s right, it’s true and I’ll tell you why: none of it is written by anyone who has done an honest day’s work in his life. They just make this stuff up to get you to click, buy, whatever. It only enriches them, not you.

Now let me tell you what will help you make something of yourself and, if you do things right, live a good life. Yes, I know that sounds a bit anti climactic — what with all the millions everyone else promises you — but that’s honestly the only thing I or anyone else can do for you. The rest is up to you.

1. Develop a strong work ethic.

In terms of building a successful career, work ethic truimp everything. What that means is doing your job and getting it done. It means striving to be better than anyone. It means working your tail off, meeting your commitments and making your boss, customers happy.

2. Focus on doing only what matters you.

Remember what I just said about work ethic? If you want to look at it in a broad sense, you need to figure out what matters most in life and focus on doing just that. If you prioritize and are disciplined about it, you can forget personal productivity, Accountability and daily habits and all that other nonsense. None of it matters.

3. Don’t be lazy.

Quit screwing around and get to work. More importantly, quit screwing around and calling it work. What I mean by that is this, Everything you think will advance your prospects and perspective — building your personal brand, social networking, seminars, coaching sessions, reading blogs — is a waste of time. All of it.

4. Quit searching for answers.

There are none. Actually, let me rephrase that. There are no answers that don’t come from one of three place, Education, experience and introspection(crosschecking). They are the source of all learning. When I say education, I mean real education. School,college, Experience means working in the real world. And introspection means sitting quietly and listening to yourself. Notice: no books, no blogs.

5. Make smart decisions.

Smart people with good instincts and lots of experience take smart risks and make good choices. That, hands down, is the most important factor in determining how things turn out for you. Workers are paid to work. Managers are paid to manager. Top executives are paid to make smart decisions that end up making customers happy and making investors lots of money.

6. Accept that nothing you have to say matters to anyone.

There is no reason for the vast majority of you to be generating content. None. After you’ve become successful in the real world, then your experience, knowledge, insights, and opinions will matter. Until then, quit wasting your time and everyone else’s. The sooner you accomplish great things in the working world, the sooner you’ll have something to say that matters.

7. Build real relationships with real people.

Sure, social networks make it easier to connect with people, but every business and career opportunity that’s ever come my way has been from a real person I knew personally. Every single one. People will not lift a finger to help you until there is a real, human connection. One real relationship in the real world is worth 1,000 friends and followers in the virtual world.

Just so you know, all of this used to be common sense but, in today’s world, it’s wisdom. So be it. The sooner you understand that success comes only from you, your work, and your experience, the sooner you’ll turn your life around and become a huge success story. So get to it.

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