No problem. You are fine. I knew you were just asking a question. I realized that I am probably older than you when this derogatory phrase came out. It’s kind of like the “N-word”. It’s okay when African American men use it towards women but not for white men when addressing black women because it objectifies/sexualizes them. I tell you when a white man would say that to me, it would absolutely make me bristle with resentment! I think that some gay males might have used this back in the day but I don’t know about a non derogatory use towards males. Interesting question.