Dear People Who Write Self-Help Guides & Life Hacks
Lauren Modery
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It goes both ways. Don’t care about personal growth? Happy with the way things are? That’s totally fine, nobody cares, but don’t expect others to be content with the things that you are content with. Articles like these are, to me, the equivalent of the lazy/cool students in the back of class making fun of the “teacher’s pet” who is actually trying to learn something. I remember somebody once saying something along the lines of “When did it become uncool to know stuff? When did mediocrity become the new standard? Screw that!”, and while I certainly don’t believe that any way of life is “mediocre”, I do like the general sentiment of that statement because it motivates me to push boundaries for myself.

That said, I would concede that there is way too much stuff out there. These days, everyone’s a guru. I’m overwhelmed by the mass of self-improvement articles on Medium and bite-sized “inspirational” quotes with pretty pictures on social media that have become so inflationary it feels more like mindless repetition than actual advice. I wonder if anyone actually stops to think about the things they repost anymore, rather than just tweeting it and moving on. I have certainly been guilty of it and I’m trying to change that (there’s some more self-improvement for you).

So I completely empathize with you and understand why you felt the need to write an article like this. It’s a fair assessment, and the fact that some people have the arrogance to suggest your life is worth less than others’ because you’re not following their path is indeed a problem that the culture will need to address.

I just don’t think that asking people to “FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, PLEASE STOP” does much to solve the problem. It’s kind of the other extreme end of the scale, don’t you think?

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