When asked what I would tell a 20 year old me…

To live right. For yourself. Not in the sense of mistakes, telling fibs to people. Don’t do yourself wrong, to satisfy other people’s selfish needs. Because if they truly care, it won’t matter and if they matter, they won’t care. They love you for the fact that you are you who loves who you are.you loving who you are. Now, as you get older , and you meet thousands of people, who each have met thousands of people etc., people lose sight of who they really are, being the reason, or one, why your circles get smaller. People tend to trust people less. You have to let the shallow people into your life, just enough, to learn the lessons you need to or you may end up too old, just now learning the mistakes you should have when you were young. You have a lot less to lose than you think when you’re younger, as you haven’t gained the insight of what starts to deem truly important in life until you realize your years are fading away. That realization comes from friends and family who die, tragedies that make you appreciate that it wasn’t you, or lucky you made it through it yourself, and the feeling of that it really does feel like yesterday we were all just kids, who job it was to just be happy. To not grow up. But, it happens and you do. Don’t be afraid to take the risks, they are small ones, but seem big to a younger person, as they have less to rely on from experience. You can always trust your gut, really. 200,000 plus years of intuition and DNA will hint to you through perception and analysis to make the decisions to keep you alive or out of harms way, and keep you around longer to create memories to take with you as long as you want them to look back on. It’s your life to protect and other people will never value yours as much as you do, so if someone or something in a situation gives you a feeling in your gut, don’t be afraid to speak up and be wise, and say “No, that’s a dumb f*cking idea.” At that moment is when you will weigh the risk and reward from experience to determine if you trust yourself and others to make the right choices for you and each other, which is growth. I was too cool around people to wear a seatbelt in high school, now, because I am 32 and comfortable in my own skin, I could care less if someone thinks I look cool or not, as it was one of the factors that saved my life in an I.ED. attack in Iraq, a little extreme, but I know if the conversation happened, how dumb they would feel, as their pettiness doesn’t justify the means because they have to respect my life experience. Stay true to who your Grandma sees you as, the real you. Cherish your life, and continue to learn from it. I assure you, it tests you, sometimes shaking your entire belief system to the core, because nothing or no one can prepare you for the evils the world will deceive you with. You have 2 ears and one mouth, listen twice as much as you talk, believe none of what you hear and half of what you see. If you expect the worse and hope for the best you should always come out with clarity and truth, while never being let down. Never let others deter you from being your true self, they are only there to teach you that exact lesson, as they pass through you life. You might as well cut the middle man, save the time you would’ve never gotten back, so that in the end you had more time to appreciate, because if you disappoint yourself in the end, that is your regret. That is the loneliest feeling one can have, because no one but you can try and come to terms with it. By, then it’s too late to fix, when you were all that was needed to make it all fulfilling and meaningful all along. Stay true to your purpose and trust the wisdom you already have waiting inside you for you to discover, and that way you will never be wrong. I have soared with the Eagles and slithered with the snakes, and when all was said and done, the fact that no one has ever had to second guess my intentions or character, because by staying true those around me, they to could see that there was no lying in me. Sometimes that could change or even save another’s life, which only spreads more truth around for others to enjoy and experience. Oh, be sure to exercise and brush your teeth.