As I sat around with a group of my closest girlfriends, I noticed the way we all talked about our first heartbreak. Whether it was a cheater, “right person wrong time” or a simple misunderstanding, not one set of eyes in that circle were dry. We bonded over the nights we’d spent feeling worthless, questioning what was so special about the other girl he was now with and wondering if someone would ever fall in love with us again. The more we talked, the more I realized how many people shared the same pain.
As alone as you feel, know that someone out there relates to your pain. We all just like to pretend it doesn’t exist.
This isn’t about the pain we all share when it comes to a broken heart but rather the sense of empowerment that comes with it. You are not special when it comes to heartbreak. It is something we all go through. The only thing that makes us unique is how we handle the pain.
So what should you do? What is the RIGHT way to heal a broken heart?
There isn’t one.
Do you remember when you were little and fell off your bike for the first time? Those scabs on your knees took weeks to heal, sometimes they even left scars that you can still trace with your fingers today. But eventually, your body did its thing and fixed that sucker up.
A broken heart is the same thing. Sure, it’s broken right now but someday…someday I promise you’ll wake up and be glad you didn’t try to rush it’s healing process. You’ll be glad you genuinely felt every emotion your heart was begging you to feel.
Do you and your future self a favor and don’t listen to the people who tell you to “get over it” or “move on.” Your heart knows you better than anyone else. When you’re truly ready to move on, you will.