It’s so true that caring can give the other person control over you.
It’s certainly an option to care less. It’s a muscle to use at times, it regulates and corrects. At the same time, it’s not an option I’d use for very long. I wouldn’t want to train that muscle too much. A set of brakes is important, but brakes don’t take you places.
How about caring elsewhere? It seems to me that caring is a creative action: it creates, it builds, it adds. I’d care less just for a moment, then I’d reframe what I’m building with my care, and then I’d care some more.
Thanks for writing this. Your customers are lucky to have someone who cares like you do.