You Are Not Equal. I’m Sorry.
Dina Leygerman

This is the moral equivalent of calling those blacks who reject “government as the savior” liberalism “Uncle Tom”.

Those of us rejecting modern Feminism understand and are grateful to the women (and men) who opened the doors to education, voting, and job access. To suggest our differences at this point are based on an ignorance of history, complacency or denial is insulting and reeks of condescension. It also denies my inherent right to my own opinions, rather than the group think that permeates the current feminist movement.

Measuring equality by outcome rather than opportunity, without digging deeper into reasons why there are differences, distorts the discussion. Where women value temporal flexibility, men value income growth. A willingness/ability to adhere to an assigned schedule, travel, work additional hours, and one’s overall commitment to the business impact one’s value to the company, reflected in pay. Women oftentimes choose jobs that have different characteristics and amenities — be it flexible hours, working from home, completing projects outside of the typical corporate schedule, etc. Many women simply have caregiver obligations, be it for children or aged family members, which shift their priorities. To blame this on corporations is not only disingenuous, but it ignores that fact that companies willing to compromise on these issues actually open up avenues for women.

There are a number of reasons why we differ on issues. Minimum wage legislation is a short term feel good solution which ultimately harms the poorest. Costs incurred by businesses, either in mandated wages, benefits or protections, are ultimately always passed along to the consumer. The poorest are hurt when their purchasing power is diminished. Unskilled workers are marginalized when they must compete with unemployed college graduates for a $15 cashier job. Health care/insurance: Insurers, and now even those who crafted ACA, understand that the costs for covering the ill are borne by the premiums paid by the healthy. That is the reason behind ‘prior condition’ clauses in insurance policies. Why would anyone pay $1,000s per year in insurance when they could just wait until they got sick to sign on? This is further exemplified by the recent discussion on increasing the penalties on the young who do not sign up for ACA. It’s all a matter of bottom line economics for the insurance industry — the same discussion could be applied to auto insurance. Discussions on what insurers should or should not cover are fluid, but all impact consumer costs. In general, anything provided for free is never really free, because ultimately consumers pay through increased premiums, hidden fees, higher taxers and escalating costs.

I lightly touched on the above subjects to demonstrate that there are sound reasons for having an opposing opinion outside of hatred, ignorance, denial or whatever other motive feminists may assign.

“Men are still debating over your uterus.” No, men are providing a voice for their unborn children. They have a right to believe that which possesses their DNA, and which they can rightfully be held financially accountable for, is a life from the moment of conception. Men, and pro-life women, do not have to capitulate to the feminist view that life is only defined by whether it is wanted or not. That would make us science deniers.

The rest of the screed is basic stereotyping of men down to their lowest common denominator. My father, brothers, sons, nephews, male coworkers and neighbors are not rapists, misogynists, nor abusers. They don’t give a damn if you breastfeed, sleep around, dress up in a vagina costume (to protest being objectified — geez!) or vote/don’t vote. These angry and hateful generalizations are not shared by a large number of women, and serve no purpose other than to further an us vs. them divide.

I feel incredibly blessed to live in a country where I have great opportunity, mobility, expression, and the right to my own views. I am where I am in my life because of these freedoms and my choices. I own my decisions and the outcomes that come with them. I own my opinions, and will not have them dismissed by those who disagree. We have gaping chasms in our views of what true equality means. I will not be bullied into being told what I believe, by a woman or a man.

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