Gaslighting is “a form of psychological abuse in which false information is presented with the intent of making a victim doubt his or her own memory and perception. It may simply be the denial by an abuser that previous abusive incidents ever occurred, or it could be the staging of bizarre events by the abuser with the intention of disorienting the victim.”
Psychiatrists will tell you that being lied to about your reality is a form of abuse. Children are particularly vulnerable to this kind of abuse because when you’re a child, you look to others you look up to for validation that you’re interpreting the world accurately. So kids ask their parents and teachers a ceaseless cascade of stupid questions hoping to triangulate from their answers that their perception isn’t broken. But adults are fallible. Many unconsciously lie to children because as adults, we don’t have all the answers and it’s often times easier to lie than admit ignorance.