Why is trust important?
Is it really possible to enjoy life by being dubious about everything around you?
If you stop for a moment and think about it, you constantly deposit your trust on way more things that you try to convince yourself you do. This trust goes from the most simple things, to the more complex ones.
Let’s do a quick recap.
You wake up every morning, trusting your cellphone’s alarm to go off at the exact time you scheduled it. You walk into the bathroom to have a shower and trust the governmental organ that manages the water and sewer system to fulfil its function, and provide you with an endless supply of water in order for you to take a bath. The same applies for the morning pee –or dump– and brushing your teeth.
You dress up, hype up yourself in the mirror, and walk down the stairs to the kitchen. You have faith in the almighty power supply to keep your food and beverages cool inside the fridge, and dive in for a carton of milk –which you convince yourself doesn’t have any hormones or extra chemicals… but, really?–, grab the cereal box, and pour a cool bowl of cereal. You finish it up, double-check your phone only to realize that you’re already running late –because, you blindly trust your phone’s clock–, and head out.
You trust your car manufacturer to not explode when you ignite the engine, you trust the gas needle when it desperately calls for a refill yet again, you trust the traffic flow and signs to safely lead the way to work. You trust, you trust, and you keep trusting.
We decide to trust an abundance of things on our daily basis we do not give ourselves credit for. And yet, we still doubt on our ability to deposit our faith on the things that actually matter.
Businesses have figured out the importance of trust and loyalty on the products and services they offer to the public. With a lot more frequency, enterprises are looking for ways to earn the customers’ trust, and keep them loyal to their brand.
We’re constantly receiving invitations to become a member of a certain app, or buy a monthly subscription to a meal program, or getting free stuff only to try it out, in order for us to deposit our trust on that product or service.
Think of the big ones of our time, Spotify, Amazon Prime, Netflix, just for taking some examples. They give you a free trial to understand their products for a couple months, and just when you start becoming loyal to the service, they start charging you a fixed fee to follow up on the benefit you receive.
And we decide to have faith in them, even though we know they’re not perfect, and fully aware that they’re going to fail us at some time.
Spotify didn’t have Taylor Swift or The Beatles for a long time, and yet it still was the biggest music streamer service of the moment.
If you periodically buy products from Amazon, it is perfectly normal to expect a damaged item, or a lost shipping at a certain moment, but we still trust them with our credit cards and our reviews on their service.
Netflix doesn’t have all the content we wish it had –we’re still sore at them for not having The Office, though–, but we still destine more than $10 USD a month for their non-complete service. We do that because we trust them as a source of entertainment –or forever lonely Saturday nights–.
We exercise daily our trust muscles, and yet we feel insecure about ourselves or our relationships in a regular basis.
The same way we decide to trust a product or service, even though we’re aware that they could fail us at a certain moment, and taking into account that their sole purpose is to satisfy our certain need and keep us happy at all times, we can’t be naive enough to believe that the people we treat with won’t fail us in some point.
People are not perfect. You are not perfect. Relationships have their struggles. People fail, they let you down. You let them down as well. They damage your trust. You also make them feel insecure themselves.
I mean, your parents have told you lies throughout all of your life. Your friends have miscarried your friendship in some occasion. Your boyfriend or girlfriend had at some point forced you to be in a position of weakness, and failed to make you feel secure.
And that’s when it hurts the most.
But we can’t go on with our lives overthinking and doubting every single thing that could cause an inner harm. It damages our self confidence, it affects our relationships, it makes us want to drift off from people.
It makes us small, it hides our inner, brilliant self.
It’s hard to trust again, specially when someone that’s important to you, makes you feel let down… But sooner or later you have to make a decision.
Either you chose to let go from that person –highly recommended in case your trust has been severely damaged, or constantly failed–, or in case you truly appreciate your self other, you make a simple decision to start building up the trust you lack at the moment.
If the other person is as well interested in restoring the trust he severed in the past, then it’s just a matter of time for you two to fully recover the confidence you have in each other. But in order to make this work, it is fundamental you make that simple, but hard decision.
If you keep doubting on trusting or not trusting, it just keeps damaging the relationship more and more. It keeps creating more distance between you two. It makes you feel more insecure, and causes the other person to question if you want the confidence to come back in the first place.
Almost everything in life comes down to a decision. Wanna have a better body? Get outside and work out. Want to earn more money? Start looking for another job or grind harder for a raise. Want to be with him or her? Begin with a simple conversation.
Want to trust again? Just trust again.
It’s up to you. No one else.
Thanks for reading!