About abandonment, which we all suffer from.

A deeply insightful (and moving) extract from Therese Borchard I cannot resist posting. Millions of people feel ‘abandoned’ when they have not been. We could heal wounds with the ointment of education. Something we are all in need off.

Therese Borchard on abandonment: We were shamed by [our parents] abandoning us. We feel we are bad, as if we’re contaminated, and that shame leads to loneliness. Since our inner child feels flawed and defective, he has to cover up his true self with his adapted, false self. He then comes to identify himself by his false self. His true self remains alone and isolated.

Staying with this last layer of painful feelings is the hardest part of the grief process. “The only way out is through,” we say in therapy. It’s hard to stay at that level of shame and loneliness; but as we embrace these feelings, we come out the other side. We encounter the self that’s been in hiding. You see, because we hid it from others, we hid it from ourselves. In embracing our shame and loneliness, we begin to touch our truest self.

You can read the rest of the article here — http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2012/09/23/6-steps-to-help-heal-your-inner-child/