Things school didn’t teach me

Patrick Wu
Aug 27, 2017 · 3 min read
  1. Don’t listen to what people say, they are lying, look into their action. (words require no efforts, actions do)
  2. If you’re with a person when you run into a friend, don’t start talking to your friend and ignore the person you’re with, it is downright inconsiderate.
  3. The way a person handle conflicts shows emotional intelligence.
  4. Don’t be impressed by wealth, be impressed by characters and mannerism.
  5. Life is like a stock, it has its ups and downs. Don’t get too upset when you’re having a down time, and don’t get cocky when you’re doing well.
  6. Detail matters, don’t dismiss little red flags in social settings. (Learned it the hard way)
  7. More than often, a rejection doesn’t look like a rejection. “I can’t, I have this and that” means “f*ck off”, a person with sincerity will say “I can’t, but how about Tuesday?”
  8. Avoid making an appointment at short notice, it’s unsophisticated.
  9. Luxury does not make sense, luxury is about making you feel good.
  10. High fashion is all about exclusivity, that is why high fashion apparel looks “ugly” as hell to most people. High fashion will not be high fashion if they appeal to the majority.
  11. “You’re quiet”, please, stop saying this shit to people. Maybe you’re just not smart enough to challenge them intellectually.
  12. You get what you paid for, no people in their right mind will expect Rolex quality when they’ve only paid Seiko price. You want something? Pay the price.
  13. Don’t be so “black and white”, the world is more complicated than just “black and white”.
  14. Flow with your audience, don’t talk about cultural difference with a 5-year-old. Likewise, don’t talk about Pokemon Go with your dad. You’re only wasting your time and making yourself look like a fool by doing that.
  15. Stay calm, over-the-top excitement and sadness are equally bad for you.
  16. Talking about sex or even watching porn does not make a person pervert, what make a person pervert are raping, groping and staring.
  17. Don’t show off, it makes you look like someone without fine taste.
  18. Showing off is naive and vulgar, but when it’s time to demonstrate your strength and value, make sure people won’t forget it.
  19. People respond accordingly to how you dress, what you wear or what you drive. (This is hardly a surprise)
  20. When building a new relationship, don’t pour your heart out right away, give time for the other person to get to know you, and for yourself to get to know them. (We’re not kids anymore, you can’t just go around and tell people “Hey! Let’s be friends!” Sorry, that’s not how things work)
  21. Nobody likes a smart-ass or know-it-all, learn to shut up.
  22. Don’t ever think you’ve known enough, your mindset will show through your demeanor, and people will stay away from you because you’re too arrogant to listen to what they are going to say. Your loss.
  23. People don’t tell, I don’t ask. And stay away from people who ask you “How much you make?”, “What does your parents do?” that kind of questions.
  24. Make yourself a pleasant to work with, especially if your dad is not a billionaire and you need to find a job in the future.
  25. Everything has a price. e.g. The price of not treating your body the right way is getting sick. Before your each decision, make sure you can afford the price.
  26. Don’t chase girls who clearly have no interests in you (and thank them for making it clear), not only you are wasting your time, you are dumbing yourself down.
  27. Listen to advice, especially those from elderly.
  28. Don’t get offended by criticism, analyze them instead.
  29. Don’t take a compliment seriously if

a. The person just met you. (They are trying to sweep you off your feet)

b. The person wants something from you. (Needs no explanation)

c. The person is an idiot. (hah)

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Patrick Wu

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A twenty-year-old who overthinks. I have an inadequate body and a troubled mind.

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