s us…kay — and may even, paradoxically, empower the “victim” — when it’s a temporary, reversible effect. What’s wrong is to diminish someone permanently. So there’s ample room for ethical puppy play or for scenes where a person is used as a seat, table…
olves hurting someone? Because hurt and harm are differen…iple, especially given that SM often involves hurting someone? Because hurt and harm are different: hurt is temporary, but harm is lasting — whether it’s physical, like loss of a limb or function; psychological, like PTSD or reduced self-…