How to Have Better Sex By NOT Having Sex
Sensate Focus helps couples rediscover intimacy
Originally published on SexTherapistRVA
Raise your hand if you’ve ever felt at odds with your partner, with your sexual satisfaction, or with your physical experience of sex…
Keep your hand up if you’ve tried various sexy-time methods to get over the hump (as it were) including dress-up, scheduled intimacy,
Now keep your hand up if you’ve ever tried rediscovering intimacy by NOT having sex…
Sensate focus is a method for returning to the pure electric sensory experience of loving touch — without the pressure of performance, penetration, orgasm, or any other goal.
What is sensate focus?
Before the 1960s, sex was an almost entirely taboo subject in American conversation, education, and consciousness.
After the Kinsey Reports broke the ice on sexology in the late ’40s and early ’50s, Dr. William Masters and his partner Virginia Johnson took sexuality research to the next level, applying a more strict scientific approach — both to unite the psychology and physiology of sex, and to pave the road for institutional recognition and legitimacy of the subject.
