In control

Controlling your own urges and emotions is the main sign of maturity. We value people able to achieve that state.

Strong desire of being in control is probably one the greatest obstacles to sustaining a happy relationship, being it romantic or with a child, or friend, or even oneself.

Controlling the time and planning the future seem like stuff without which our ordinary, everyday existence wouldn’t be possible.

How then, do we deal with desires? Shall we restrain? Shall we give up and delve?

If the ultimate answer was possible, it’d be highly appreciated. I’m sick of the concept of golden mean or middle way, or all the other weak, meek risk-free solutions. My desire is to follow some proper extreme for once.

Luckily, there is Buddhism. And its withdrawing, withholding. Philosophy of nothingness, sheer existence of acceptance and letting go is something surely extreme, even though they like to call it mild and peaceful.