How I Went From Redundant To Abundant In Two Years
How to put yourself back on the radar after redundancy and move forward with courage.
I lost my job but that was all it was a job. But, I found my life’s purpose and learned that redundant to abundant is possible. Here I am two years on and I made it to the other side of redundancy. Redundancy was to fuel my last call to find my calling and for that I am grateful.
This is my experience to date and advice to anyone who may be facing a similar situation.
So my company made me redundant and I lost my job after 17 years. What was I going to do? Insurance was all I knew and I was being made redundant. Ouch! it hurt like hell.
If I didn’t go, the decision was being made for me. I had given 17 years of my life to this company, and like many, I had spent more time in there working than with my family. These people felt like my family. But I had to remind myself they were my employers and that was all.
Note to self in the words of Stephen Covey:
How many people on their deathbeds wished they had spent more time in the office?
The word “redundant” still gets me to this day and I hate it. It made me feel redundant, like shit and that I would never do anything again. It undermined my value as a person and my ability to bounce back. My ego got bruised. Why me? The day I sat down to negotiate the terms of my redundancy I felt like I was sitting in front of a jury awaiting my sentence of unemployment.
At 39 years of age my 19-year-old son telling me stories of plans to replace humans with robots was not helping! You can always depend on generation z to tell you the truth though! Harsh and all as it is.
“Mam, you are 40 in two months time and you know the longer you are out of the workforce, the harder it will be to get a job”.
I love him so much but I wanted to tell him in a polite manner that he was not helping the situation at the time. He was making me feel even more redundant!
In jumped his father my knight in shining armour, he kindly took on the role of mediator and had a quiet word with him.
Now I thought to myself I can take back control here or I can lie down and feel sorry for myself. Shit happens and people lose their jobs and are made redundant every day. They go on to find new meaning and purpose in life and so can I! But I still had that aching feeling inside of me that something was being taken away from me yet again in life. I can’t explain it. Grief might be the word I knew I was going to have to grieve the loss of my job.
But I had lost my health, happiness, my mum and a lot more in the past. Losing my job was nothing compared to those situations cop on!
My attitude would mean the difference between an ordeal or an adventure here. I knew what I had to choose. So I put my big girls pants on and felt sorry for myself for a day or two and then I thought:
Hang on girl you have got your self-confidence, health, and happiness back after 12 years. You can get through this. I am resilient, and I will bounce back. I will ride the emotions in the coming weeks, and they hit believe me, but I will get over it.
And I did.
I sat down a few days later calm and confident to renegotiate my redundancy on my terms. I walked out the door of my job after 17 years with my head held high. There were tears but on reflection, they were tears of joy. Like many, I had found myself in a job more as a result of chance and circumstance than by choice or planning. My employer had given me the opportunity to seek out my life’s purpose and do something that I valued. I could now go and find my calling.
To this day I am forever grateful to them for that opportunity. Now I do not deny it is not easy for an employer to make people redundant, but I remember saying I didn’t want anyone to be sad. All I wanted was for it to be over so I could move forward.
A few weeks later on my 40th birthday, my good friend Ken and his wife of mine gave me a copy of a book. That book was The seven habits of highly effective people. It is by the above mentioned Stephen Covey. They told me it would help me move forward.
Ken is a big inspiration he has been a friend of myself and my husband since 16 years of age. With nothing more than €15,000 he received as part of his redundancy settlement, he has succeeded in growing Wallace Myers International to 34 staff and a turnover of more than €5.5m in less than 6 years.You can read his inspiring story of redundancy to finding his vocation here.
In the months that followed Ken said to me:
“Pauline if you want to go with what your heart is telling you”
And I did.
A year on to the day and I graduated as a professional coach. Two years on to the day and I am running my own business. I am listed in the top 100 life coach blogs and websites. I contribute to Arianna Huffington’s global platform Thrive on a regular basis. You can read my articles here. I built my blog and website from scratch with little or no tech skills. I am always learning. This week I was an award finalist in the International Coaching Federation awards in two categories. The rising star and health and wellness award categories.
Despite not winning an award I am very proud to receive recognition for my contribution to the coaching community. After only 10 months in business that is a win in my eyes. 2017 was only the warm-up. The foundations are in place. Time to build do more great work and take the steps towards my associate membership in 2018. I live brave and show up vulnerable, and it has paid off. I am no longer redundant. I am abundant.
And believe me, there is a lot more to being abundant than money. If you have ever been weak you will understand.
What an adventure, from illness to fitness and bodybuilding to building a business.
I competed in my first bodybuilding competition the month before I sat down to negotiate. So I was going to bring that confidence to a male-dominated boardroom table. You can see that pride and confidence in my face in the first photograph. It takes confidence and courage to stand on a bodybuilding stage. You need unshakable confidence to let people judge you and not let it affect you.
Especially after being five stone overweight a year before. It is a skill you have to build but when you master it you will never question yourself again. Unshakable confidence only comes when you place your values on things that no one can take away from you. Being made redundant was not going to take away what I value in life most my health and happiness.
Girl, you got this it.
To hell with feeling like they are the judge and jury handing down my sentence. I knew my worth and I was adding tax because I had spent 17 years of service and devotion from 9 to 5. Nobody can devalue it. As Dolly Parton said, I poured myself a cup of ambition that morning. I was walking out of there in a position to set myself up for success for the rest of my life. This girl had dreams they could help me make happen! I had to use my mind to make sure I got my credit!
There’s a better life ahead.
And there was.
Cheers Dolly in memory of my beautiful mam her favorite!
Not long after I did some work with an executive coach. She asked me to remember a situation in my life when I was calm and confident. Sure I didn’t even have to think about it. It was that boardroom knowing my worth. Two years on it has been one great journey of ups and downs, learning, living and loving life. Every new day is the beginning of another journey. My most significant failures in life led me here today, and I am grateful.
If you are facing losing your job soon through redundancy please believe with conviction, that it is only the beginning because it is if you want it to be.
You can move forward with courage and put yourself back on the RADAR if you:
Realize you are not redundant.
Acknowledge your strengths and achievements.
Don’t limit your potential or future success.
Accept it and move on.
Revisit your values to help you find new meaning an purpose.
Here are my top tips if facing a similar situation.
1. Be brave and keep learning.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help and open your mind to new perspective and knowledge. The more learning you do about yourself and life the more confident you will be in your decision making about where next to go from here.
2. Work on your values.
You may have been living in conflict with your core values in life for many years if stuck in a job that left you void of meaning and purpose. Work on your values and beliefs to realign them with your new meaning and purpose. Then you are sure to find your calling in life.
3. Don’t limit your potential.
“Success means having the courage, the determination, and the will to become the person you believe you were meant to be.” ~George Sheehan
I work hard during my days writing articles, perfecting my website’s SEO, and posting in forums. I read and write daily to be successful. I train hard in the gym to keep me in this headspace. Every day I surround myself with people who believe in my potential. I read articles from writers and bloggers that I admire, but I no longer think my writing is not good enough. I did before, making comparisons, so I then avoided reading, writing and learning. Why? because it felt like it was outside of my comfort zone. I was limiting my potential.
I started to read Jack Canfield’s The Success Principles after seeing him at last years Pendulum Summit. I learned that if I was ever going to see a change in my business and life, I had to hold myself accountable and push myself outside of my comfort zone. I am re-reading it now and doing his ten-day transformation course again also you can find it here.
I scare myself every day to realize what I am capable of and what I can accomplish. If you want to open yourself up to new possibilities and success then move out of your comfort zone and maximize your potential now.
When I let go of the ego bruising my redundancy brought and my sense of entitlement I began to thrive. You can read why in my piece Why life owes you nothing here! I had to create this new experience and make it happen and so can you.
Would I do anything different? No.
I am a lion, I am proud and I am coming for everything I said I could never have.
No guts, no glory, no legend no story!
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Originally published at www.challengeuchangeu.com on October 20, 2017.