You raise points worth discussing, but in passing…
- It’s not ok for “a straight guy” to be in therapy. How about gay guys? Can straights learn anything from gays about compassion, empathy, acceptance?
- You speak positively of a “discipline” like meditation. Discipline is a concept that’s positively male-coded but too often involves refusal — shutting down one’s feelings in favor of physical action or psychic inaction.
- In reality, any process that helps us get better requires discipline. But loving discipline is female-coded and not acceptable. Maybe men would understand therapeutic work better if it were reframed as work–something tough that one must force oneself to do and stay with if it is to succeed.