The Rule of Rules

Do you ever think for a moment, how hard-wired we are as humans? We share the same narrative as our ancestors did many 1000 years ago even in today’s day of the Smart Phone, Instant Food Delivery, Work from Home and Cashless Payments.
Our appetite, our desire to survive, our sexuality and our need to feel alive has all remained the same. In this super-evolved world, we are so confused with so many people preaching different ways of living that some times we forget how simple we are as humans. We have complicated the most basic of our needs in the pursuit of a ‘better-life’. We all have a point to prove to ourselves — ‘I have to achieve this for me to feel good about myself’. So we pour ourselves into work, set deadlines for ourselves and for the first time in history we say no to our basic human needs that come in the way of our aspirations.
Ask yourself if you’ve missed a meal trying to get some work done? Ask yourself if you’ve not let someone else into your life because you feel that they will take away your time? Ask yourself if you feel inactive and lazy because your company let’s you work out of your bedroom?
A lot of us are guilty of following No Rules and it’s much to do with how we’re all conditioned because of the internet. The internet is designed to be very re-affirming even if you’re wrong. By wrong, I do not mean objectively wrong but wrong in the context of your individual situation. Maybe the reason as to why we’ve reached such a high level of dissatisfaction is because we’re coming to terms with the fact that the real world is not as reaffirming to us when we are wrong and the internet is not as satisfying to us when we feel unhappy.
I was unhappy for a long time because I wanted an intimate-affectionate relationship but didn’t pursue one because I was being busy and because I was letting my personality get in the way. Once I started working on myself as a human being and started making time for people I saw myself making progress. Soon I was no longer feeling resentful and unhappy. On the contrary I was happy about my life and started waking up feeling grateful.
We need to examine our lives every time we feel miserable. Nobody is going to come to your home, knock the door and get you to feel right about life. You have to do it to yourself.
One of Jordan Peterson’s Chapters in 12 Rules for life is entitled, ‘Treat yourself like someone someone you are responsible for helping’ and he couldn’t have been more correct. We give great advice to others and I wonder the amount of good that would happen if we had a gentle talk with ourselves with the aim of improving the quality of our life.
