Clarity is key
Communication is one of these most powerful tools we have to relate to each other. It enables us to engage in conversation with complete strangers, connecting in deep and meaningful ways, using language as a bridge to share experiences.
Yet, we’re taught to be polite, to avoid expressing our thoughts straight out from our heads. They should be processed, words have to be carefully chosen, never forgetting who we’re talking to in order not to offend anyone.
This can lead to going around subjects, hiding behind metaphors and excusing ourselves, which many times results in not getting our message through as we intended.
How many times have you gone around a subject, just to avoid hurting someone else, even when you have the best of intentions?
Have your words ever been misunderstood, or worse, dismissed, just for not delivering them as you wanted to?
This past few years have taught me the importance of communication. Who I talk to, what I say, how I say it and when I say it, has proved to be crucial for my words and thoughts to be heard and understood.
Nevertheless, even when I feel I’ve nailed it down, if I don’t express myself clearly, chances are things won’t go as I intended them to or, worse even, nothing will happen.
Clarity is key when speaking with others, whether it’s in our relationship, or we’re trying to convey a message to a classmate, a co-worker or a client.
Being clear doesn’t mean being disrespectful, rude or selfish; it’s not a synonym to getting your way. Have this in mind when communicating with others, and more so when you’re trying to express a wish or a need; when you want to tell others how you feel or when you’re pointing out a behavior that you wish to be changed.
Be clear when you speak, choose the right words and remember the message you’re trying to get through. You are responsible for what you do and say; the same goes for what you fail to say.
If you’re not clear, or try to go around for fear of hurting someone else’s feelings or coming across as too dominant, your words might get lost and you might end filling up silence instead of making things better, both for you and for your listener.
Remember the power of words, and the importance of clarity.