Fail everyday to rise on the perfect day

Princy
Princy
Aug 22, 2017 · 7 min read

Often when we don’t end up getting what we want, what we dreamt off takes us to a new low level with this word named: FAILURE which comes as an ocean, hits us hard and tears us apart. We end up at a place, where we have no idea on how to start & what to start with; often this trauma stays long and we never get up not even try to. We cease to make efforts ahead, we corner ourselves and start with a new hell of life with no purpose to live for. Just as a kid is forced to follow up his parents, his society we start following our own fear. The fear to fail again, the fear to be on streets with no name, the fear to get lost of this technological world, the fear to never rise up again.

Fear and failure are synonyms to each other. As we get better with one, the next is already in the pipeline to hit us even more deep. To give us scars we have never seen, to make us fall so hard that we even forget how to get up. But that’s where we need to work. That’s the canal we need to cross without drowning.

Read all over the internet you’ll find ways to conquer your fear, why fear to failure should be eliminated, x lessons on how to overcome this, but nobody could explain why this exists? Who created this? Who’s responsible to take people like you and me out of it?

Let’s deal with fear first.

Why fear is named fear?

Or who invented this fear?

May be you’ll need a little more time to come up, to my level of understanding this, word. FEAR was not known to fear or scare everybody. It’s actually what the world gave this word a definition. People who didn’t know what to do, didn’t plan their goals and end up being more miserable than before, gave this word a definition. They made their lives worse in their own minds and created a world wide spread phobia named FEAR. Nobody could have told them that they are scared of their own selves unless they named this new thing. They thought people who could not try to do some things, could not dare to complete tasks are often scared of those tasks and thus cannot accomplish it. Which is absolutely rubbish. Who are you to judge others? When you yourself are not aware of what things to take up in the near future and whether you’ll hit that level which you thought of day & night, who exactly asked you to judge others? Leave judging apart. Who asked you to talk even about that?

Why didn’t you blame yourself for not being skilled enough to target those tasks and get the reports? Why to blame the path you took? Maybe you could have tried hundreds of new paths to accomplish your end term goal; but you didn’t. You quit! You decided to leave this thing undone, just because you didn’t have the right skill set, to take it forward. It was not the word FEAR which brought a fear to your mind. Your mind created this thing out of his inability to find a solution to the existing problem you faced. You created FEAR as a barrier for yourself. Some people cannot communicate, not because they have this language issue, they have this bullshit FEAR issue. The fear of getting judged for what your are not, the fear of not being able to convince others, the fear of being insulted! But to those very special minds, I would like to frame a question: Did you ever try? Did you ever thought what possibilities you can hit? Fine, you would be judged. Is that piece of judgement wrong about who exactly you are? If you do not communicate, if you do not mix up, it’s your fault. People will speak what they look at. Right now, you’re not communicating so you’re being judged as an introvert. What’s wrong with that? Accept it. Accept what you are doing. Accept what you’re pretending to be. If that’s not possible then go outside and stop presenting yourself what you’re not. I’m not asking to shut people’s mouth as you try to be an extrovert, I’m asking to present yourself the way you actually are. The society has a rule to follow: Speak what you see and spread what you don’t see.

So try not to get judged on what you’re not; because people won’t stop judging you at your back. It’s high time you make a decision for yourself, a path to walk on throughout your life. Try changing yourself once rather than aiming to change the entire world.

Now comes FAILURE

You were trying to be yourself. You became an extrovert to the world while, you paused your own mind for yourself. This took you on a journey of weeks, months and years to finally come up with a brand new item in the society to be judged. Because judging is inevitable.

You took things differently, you changed your ways to work out problems. But somewhere you missed your old self. The one who was lazy enough to procrastinate, the one who didn’t took up any challenges, the one whose life was meant to change only when some external factor would hit him hard. You went to relive that past. You forgot your present, ignored the future and stepped into past. You compared, you got reports and then you matched them to those now. While doing so, you realised that things were easy, the previous way. You shouted, you got the things done. Now you need to do things, you need to plan them and coming to an appropriate solution is still a dream. And this is how you learned the word FAILURE and defined it as not achieving something you dreamt off. So according to you if you could not get on your targets, if could not make through something you thought you’re a failure. Right?

But did you stop and gave a glimpse to what exactly changed?

Earlier you had no goals, so whatever you did, you got, was great to you. Because you had no levels. Whatever came to you, was yours irrespective of it’s effect on you. But now when you have goals to reach, plans to follow, targets to hit; you find it odd. You say it takes time: “I have been long into this and till now I’m struggling.” So dude, don’t you think stagnant water needs to be thrown out to get the fresh water in? And draining stagnant things is hard. Things which have found a way to sustain, no matter what, are hard to give up on and take a tough mind set to step ahead. Think on this, now when you have the strategy to follow why would you do things in a bizarre manner? When you know climbing stairs is the only way that could take you to the cliff, would you still cry at the first stair complaining on how to reach the cliff? This is how you hurt yourself with this word. You know the answer, but you still frame questions to calm your mind and blame the system. Failure is not only a word to be dealt with. It’s an emotion which once gets entry to this human mind, it gets stucked there and can tear you apart. Failure is not what you experience, when you are seeing your worst days, it’s basically the inability, to rise up over issues created by you for your own self long back. Coming out of failure doesn’t require much, except for taking the challenges you weaved and finding their optimal solutions. It’s the way you skill yourself. Hitting a new low, is not a failure but, is a mapping on where you can be when you are hit. Failing gives you the courage to rise and jump more high, to touch the sky with better skills and mark your name. It gives you a hundred reasons to jump for; thousands of levels to be cracked with not only the word EXPERIENCE but with a better strategy.

So the answer of where fear and failure the two synonyms who took us on a journey which shaked our gut at every moment and left us with goosebumps came from is “within ourselves”. We are the creator of fears and definition of our own failures. The day we decide to jump out of this box, would be the day we took a birth for.

Fear can be eliminated but failure has to be jumped off.

Get deep into all fears; that’s how you would know what exists.

Fail everyday, in every way; that’s how you would know what you’re capable of.

Let the society judge; that’s a way you get to know facts about yourself, you or your family could have never discussed about.

Remember the sole reason is to be happy in whatever you are doing. If you find that you are missing the happiness factor out; that’s the point, that’s the eureka moment you need to being on this journey of two words and analyze yourself.

Good Luck doing that!

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Princy

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I write about what life is and what we can make out of it. Simplicity is adorable yet complicated to achieve.

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