I’m sorry, it’s not you, it’s me…

Whenever you break up with someone this is the easy path. Blaming yourself for the happening.

Sometimes maybe it’s true, but most times it ain’t.

When I left my previous company, I couldn’t say good bye. 
Because I would probably cry, and it’s kind of weird seeing a large adult man crying. I would not be crying for the endless hours I worked there, all the all nighters, all the stress, and the headaches.

I would cry because I will miss all the friends I made there.

We will keep in touch but it will never be the same.

Many times in there I said that the most important thing to have is a successful business, people come and go…

I’ve learned my lesson and learned it the hard way.

People are the most important asset, businesses come and go…

Don’t take me for a people person, I’m not talking about all people in general.

Lazy, unprofessional, uninterested and noncaring people aren’t part of that equation. If you are one of these types of people, sorry, but I simply don’t want you around me.

So even if you are surrounded with people you like and decide to leave why does it happen?

There are many reasons, and each person has his own drivers, so I will speak for myself.

Since I’m 42 years old, I had a lot of time to reach the right metric to decide on whether to stay or leave.

That’s the only thing that really matters. The other things are work life implementation details.

Money isn’t a goal and shouldn’t be considered one.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not wealthy and money helps to be happy, don’t think it doesn’t. But earning less and doing what you like is a lot better than earning a lot and driving a fast car that takes you very quickly to a job you hate.

But all your hard work and passion should be rightfully compensated, it’s what makes the business strive, period.

Being surrounded with wonderful people is one thing that is probably most important.

We spend a lot of time searching for our soul mate, although we spend more time with the people we work. Shouldn’t we spend more time to get to a place where you are surrounded by the right persons that make you grow and be happy?

Doing what you like separates those that work from those that have fun.

Happiness will be a lot easier if you do what you love.

In my recent job searching, I chose three possible best places to be.

Blip, which was one of my first choices, but although submitting my resume twice they never considered me for an interview.

Talkdesk, a brilliant scale up with great potential, where I’m currently working.

And Mindera, the smallest of all three. I greatly respect their effort to be different. Their mission is awesome and it really resonated with me.

We use technology to build products we are proud of with people we love.

So I shamelessly gonna copycat their mission for my personal one.

Be happy, doing what I like using technology I care, building products I’m proud of with people I love

This has always been more or less my main mission, but now it’s structured and written.

So from now on, whenever I leave will say:

Sorry it’s not you, it’s me … I want to be happy doing what I like using technology I care, building products I’m proud of with people I love

This gives you more context on the why. If I leave it’s because one of the following happened:

  • I’m not surrounded with people I love;
  • I’m not proud of the product I’m building;
  • I don’t like the technology we use;
  • I’m not doing what I like to do;

But the most important factor is happiness.

And don’t take this just on the negative side, my mission also states the opposite.

The reasons for me to stay a long time.

  • I’m surrounded with people I love;
  • I’m proud of the product I’m building;
  • I like the technology we use;
  • I’m doing what I love to do;

So my mission is clear, the “only” thing that remains is measuring my happiness levels and checking each of the points to figure what are my next steps.

What about you, do you have a written mission?

And most important, are you happy?

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