Give space to your friend, to grow trust.

An “old” approach for trust building.

Today I want to share idea about giving space to our friends, that they may have a chance to express themselves, and with this, the relationships may grow in reliability and in a belief that there is growing foundation of trust.

Basically, where there is a set of trust - ideas flourish, fun arises and peace is ever present. With trusted relationships, you can make a rough insult, but in seconds you may laugh about it. The idea of trust is a really sacred key to good connections and it is sophisticated one.

As a general rule, to know someone we have to interact and the easiest way is to talk. It doesn’t cost anything and we actually like to do it. Chatting is a lot about expressing ourselves through words, it is not expression through sports or music.

Friends do talk a lot, but really good ones know when to listen and they know to ask the right questions. They do this job as if they were art directors, directing the talk more deeply and swiftly forward, usually unconsciously.

Actually the process is not so much about listening but giving space for expressions. Giving time to open up and share ideas, comments and sometimes just making fun of each other.

Can you imagine how it is to give space to someone in a conversation? If someone give space to you, do you feel energy with in you?

The truth is that this is a soil where trusted relationships can grow, where you actually develop superb connections.

However, if one of the parties do not give space — I doubt that they will be friends and trust, will not show up.

Just imagine a conversation where one of the person is speaking all the time, there is no space to develop connection, because the one speaking is to bussy talking to himself.

I hope we can look up to the the idea of “Friend” more widely and understand that this applies also for our professional environments where we grow connections with our clients and partners.

To sum up, it may be an old fashion approach and probably a lot of us do use this practice day to day, but I do believe that with better awareness we can make better choices and as a result see strong connections. This has to be only the beginning, because we can give space not only by listening, but in thousands of other ways too.

Cheers,
Lytham St Annes @UK

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