I have supported three of my younger siblings so that they could be educated. I have a masters degree myself. For several years, I worked in my home town of Kumbakonam. Though most people could identify my trans identity, I tried to hide it and fit in like everyone around me. But things got complicated when my family decided that it was time for me to marry. I couldn’t ruin another woman’s life so I told them that I couldn’t marry and left for Chennai.

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I’ve now been in Chennai for twelve years, as an openly trans person. I spent the first few years within the guru-chela system that took care of me. After a while, I underwent my gender affirmation surgery. Unfortunately, there were some complications and I had to undergo surgery again. Once all this was over, I had been out of the job market for a while and had even forgotten the skills I used to have. PeriFerry helped me brush up on my skills and set me up with some interviews. Some companies insisted that my duties would only be behind the scenes. Even though they offered a higher pay, I did not want to work somewhere where I wouldn’t be fully respected. I chose to work as a data entry specialist at RmKV. Here, people don’t even notice that there are trans people working in the office. …


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I understood my own trans identity while in high school. But I did not relate to the collective identity of the trans community. I did not want to associate with what I saw were their ways of living — prostitution, begging, communal hierarchy, marginalization and so on. I shunned transgender people despite being one myself, but I got along well with gay and bisexual people from the community.

My first job required me to work closely with the LGBTQI community. …


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Years ago, I found my life partner. She is a woman and I am a man. To be specific, I am a man in a female body.

I always knew I liked women but it wasn’t until I met her that I trusted myself and what I was feeling. In fact, it wasn’t until later in 2017, when I met a transgender in the streets of Chennai, that I learnt I was a trans man.

I discovered my core identity at a time when I had left everything I knew behind in Bangalore and fled to Tamil Nadu, hoping to start a new life with my partner. …

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