We all have our own unique set of defensive strategies we are deluded enough to believe are boundaries. When attempting to protect our self, and thus using defensive strategies shrouded in the label of “boundaries”, we try to either not love them as much, not need them as much, not have expectations or needs of them, not show as much vulnerability (or what we call weakness), or we try to woo or lure them into continued dependence, mutual admiration, or obligation.