10 Things I Did to boost my confidence and how you can too

Singh Bhai
5 min readMay 25, 2023

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Boosting confidence. Now, I’ve been on a personal journey to increase my own confidence and let me tell you, it’s been quite the rollercoaster ride. I’m here to share my top 10 tips on how to boost your confidence, I hope this helps.

Embrace Your Quirks

You know, folks, embracing your quirks is like owning a hidden treasure. We all have those little eccentricities that make us who we are, and it’s time to celebrate them with pride.

Let me share a personal story that perfectly captures the essence of embracing quirks. So, I have this friend, let’s call him Dave. Now, Dave has an obsession with collecting rubber ducks. Yes, you heard me right, rubber ducks. His house is practically a rubber duck sanctuary. He has ducks of all shapes, sizes, and colors, staring at you from every corner. And I have to admit, it’s quite a sight to behold.

But here’s the thing, despite what you might think, Dave isn’t some eccentric billionaire who has an entire room dedicated to rubber duck parties. No, he’s just an ordinary guy who found joy in something as simple as rubber ducks. And you know what? That’s pretty amazing.

Dave taught me an important lesson about embracing quirks. It’s not about conforming to societal expectations or trying to fit into a cookie-cutter mold. It’s about embracing those little idiosyncrasies that set us apart and bring us joy, no matter how unconventional they may seem.

So, my friends, what are your quirks? Maybe you’re obsessed with collecting colorful socks, or perhaps you have an uncanny ability to imitate cartoon characters. Whatever it may be, embrace it. Own it like Dave owns his rubber ducks.

Practice Self-Care

Ah, self-care, a gentle reminder that you are worthy of love, care, and nourishment. In the midst of life’s chaos and demands, it’s crucial to carve out time for yourself, to replenish your spirit and nurture your well-being.

Practicing self-care is like tending to a precious garden within your soul. It’s about cultivating moments of tranquility and self-reflection, allowing yourself to bloom and grow. It’s an act of self-love that embraces your physical, emotional, and mental needs.

Picture this: a quiet evening, soft candlelight illuminating the room, as you indulge in a warm bubble bath. The aroma of lavender fills the air, soothing your senses and melting away the stresses of the day. In that moment, you are present, honoring yourself and your need for relaxation and rejuvenation.

But self-care extends beyond spa-like indulgences. It’s about setting boundaries, saying no when necessary, and prioritizing your own well-being. It’s about listening to your body and mind, and honoring what they need — be it rest, nourishing food, exercise, or simply moments of solitude.

Take Action

taking action is the key that unlocks the doors to a world of infinite possibilities. It’s the moment when you decide to stop dreaming and start doing. It’s the catalyst that propels you forward on the path to success and fulfillment.

Think about all those dreams and aspirations that have been swirling in your mind. The business you want to start, the book you want to write, the adventure you want to embark on. They all have one thing in common: they require action.

Now, I understand that taking that first step can be daunting. Doubts and fears may creep in, whispering in your ear, questioning your abilities and warning you of the risks. But let me tell you something, my friends. Those doubts and fears are just illusions. They are the roadblocks that stand between you and your dreams. So stop sabotaging yourself

Challenge Negative Self-Talk

We’ve all experienced those moments when self-doubt creeps in, telling us we’re not good enough, smart enough, or deserving enough. It’s like having a relentless critic living in our minds, constantly tearing us downm, it’s just a evolutionalised instinct of human. But here’s the truth: that critic is not your friend. It’s time to evict that negative voice and replace it with a compassionate, supportive ally.

Challenging negative self-talk means becoming aware of those self-defeating thoughts and questioning their validity. It means replacing those thoughts with empowering affirmations and truths. Instead of saying, “I can’t do it,” say, “I am capable and resilient.” Instead of saying, “I always mess things up,” say, “I learn from my mistakes and grow stronger.”

Learn from Failure

Failure is not the end; it’s just another step towards success. I’ve had my fair share of failures, like the time I tried to bake a cake and it turned out to be a charcoal briquette. But hey, I learned to follow the recipe and avoid distractions, like binge-watching cooking shows while baking. Lesson learned, my friends. Failure is a great teacher. Embrace those moments of burnt cakes and shattered expectations, because they pave the way for growth and improvement. Plus, they make for hilarious stories at dinner parties. Trust me, people love hearing about your kitchen disasters.

Practice Positive Affirmations

I used to roll my eyes at positive affirmations, but then I realized they actually work! So, every morning, I stand in front of the mirror and say, “I am confident, I am awesome, and my hair looks surprisingly good today.” And you know what? It sets a positive tone for the day. Well, until I try to recreate those fancy YouTube hairstyles and end up looking like a poodle.

Step Out of Your Comfort Zone

Confidence grows when we push our boundaries. I remember the time I decided to try salsa dancing. Let’s just say my moves were more like a tangled garden hose than a smooth Latin rhythm. But you know what? I had a blast! Stepping out of your comfort zone not only builds confidence but also provides hilarious stories to tell your friends.

Surround Yourself with Positive People

We’ve all heard the saying, “You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Well, it turns out, it’s true! Surrounding yourself with positive, supportive people who lift you up can do wonders for your self-confidence. And if you’re like me and don’t have five people, count your pets twice. My cat is a great cheerleader!

Dress for Success

Now, I’m not saying you have to wear a suit of armor like a medieval knight. But dressing up in clothes that make you feel good can work wonders for your confidence. And hey, if wearing a superhero t-shirt under your business suit makes you feel invincible, go for it! Just make sure it’s not visible during important meetings.

Celebrate Small Victories

You know that feeling when you successfully parallel park on the first try? It’s glorious! Celebrate those small victories, my friends. It’s the little wins that add up and make you feel like you can conquer the world. Or at least the parking lot.

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Well, folks, there you have it. My top 10 tips for boosting confidence. Now, I’m not a self-help guru or a motivational speaker, but I can tell you that these strategies have worked wonders for me. Confidence is like a muscle; the more you exercise it, the stronger it becomes.

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Singh Bhai

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