No it’s not an easy gig. As a man, you have to be *really* careful discussing these things. Or get your head kicked in.

There is no attack, and you don’t need to ask for my permision to defend yourself. I apologise, i didn’t mean to suggest that i thought ‘your tactics’ were to ridicule and poke fun, i genuinely meant if we all — women and men — can move beyond the first thought reaction (of ridicule… etc) then we will make progress. But yes, if we are all to make a change, we do need to be careful with the way we put things or people fall back into their protective state. Men are particularly vulnerable in this area, say something that might even come close to threatening their manliness, or embarrass them in front of other men and you create a resolute fighter against almost any cause, in a split second. Just to prove they are a man.

I believe its not a case of there — ‘if there really are men out there that are afraid of women’. I really believe that ‘most’ men out there are afraid of women. Really. Particularly the ones with too much money and power, who unfortunately are running our societies, and planet.

Again i make my point, ‘most ‘ men are afraid of women… and/or aspire to be like them which makes them feel inadequate. Try it! Find a male friend you know, no one safe like a gay friend or your brother, someone a little uncomfortable with the conversation. Float the idea… “ hey a male friend of mine said, in a way, blokes (UK word) are a bit in awe of women, what do you reckon?”

Try that a few times and you will understand men so much better, and to really be able to help fix the problem like i and so many others are trying to do.

I think perfectionism is something that only Mother Nature can obtain, you were shocked, you were learning how to deal with this type of thing, that’s OK?

My main point is that — in my opinion — men are not afraid of women for some material thing like “they rule us, are considered better than us, make more money than us”, nope, women possess much higher qualities than that, qualities that men struggle to even deal with let alone possess. Back to my point, understand the other gender, really, deeply, accept how they are, absorb the difference, see how it affects us all… then. we can do wonderful things :)

[only been on Medium for a few days — working it out, hope ive not broken any rules!]