An occasionally snarky step-by-step guide for finding a therapist.

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One of my absolute favourite things to be asked is whether I have any advice for finding a therapist. This is because:

  1. I’m a huge fan of mental health and people getting help and treatment.
  2. I’m extremely honoured that people trust me to treat their question with care, to keep their confidence, and to provide good advice.
  3. I really love telling people what to do.

I’ve been getting this question more frequently recently so I thought I’d write up a guide for easy reference. …

The following is an excerpt from the March 19th edition of the newsletter, Fight Fire with Phire. If you enjoy this sort of thing, sign up to get it straight in your inbox!

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Shortly after the election, it was reported that a big data brokerage firm called Cambridge Analytica was involved in swaying voters in both the US election and the Brexit vote in June of 2016 using targeted social media ads. Those stories made big ripples in the tech world, but there often seemed to be an element of victim-blaming involved: if people didn’t want to be misled by the ubiquitous advertising surveillance complex that have overtaken our digital lives, surely all they had to do is to have the wisdom ten years ago to see through the information asymmetry that tech companies wielded and have the prescience not to become pawns in an ongoing commodification of user data for capitalist gain. …

On January 20th 2017, the 45th President of the United States was inaugurated. On January 21st, millions marched around the world in protest. And within a week, it seemed, we started burning out on the sheer volume of garbage news that was being shoveled at us every day.

That was the impetus behind Fight Fire With Phire, what I call the “weekday newsletter for the overwhelmed”. Each letter consists of five sections: one major new story, one major ongoing story, one social issue to consider, one thing we can do to help, and one thing that made me laugh. I set out to write something that was quick and easy to read, that would keep people plugged in even if they only had a few minutes a day to catch up, that was realistic without being fatalistic, that was hopeful without being delusional. …

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There have been so many good resources compiled by so many smart people that help people get involved and engage in direct action that it’s been hard to keep track of them all. This is my ongoing, updated list of all the resources I have come across for engaging in activism and resistance. If you come across any others, please email or comment and I will add them! (Last updated: Feb 15th, 2017)

Actions to take right now:
Weekly action checklist
Notifications about local elections
Upcoming flippable elections in swing districts …

So, we marched. We marched in the millions, we marched across all seven continents, we lit up buildings and shut down traffic.

We marched, but it’s not enough. Germany marched, too. The most dangerous thing we could do is pat ourselves on the back and be complacent with a single show of symbolic unity. It’s absolutely crucial to not let the momentum lapse and to continue work on the ground. As Jay Smooth asks:

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A piece of paper that says: “What Will You Do Monday?”

Most of the guides for further action I’ve seen have been US-centric, which is understandable but frustrating for Canadian allies who both want to help their friends in the south and who want to prevent the rise of totalitarianism in our own country. I’m not an organizer or a seasoned activist by any means, but here are some ideas I’ve absorbed for how to enact change in your community in Canada. …

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Source: Joanna Penn

Is it okay to cry?


Really? I’m not being too emotional?

No, really. Go ahead and cry. This is a fucked-up thing, and it would be weirder if you weren’t upset.

Who would’ve imagined this would happen here?

Well, black people. Indigenous people. Undocumented immigrants. Anybody who knows about the Three-Fifths Compromise, the one drop rule, who has read Howard Zinn, who knows that Jim Crow flew in on the heels of Reconstruction, who has heard of Emmett Till, or Rodney King, or Vincent Chin. Anyone who has paid attention to Black Lives Matter. Michael goddamn Moore.

Ijeoma Oluo is smarter and more eloquent than me: America isn’t magically more terrible on November 9th than it was on November 8th. This violent hatred has always been here. We just haven’t been willing to see it. …

Hint: It’s not really about infidelity.

About a week ago, I posted the following tweet:

In the week since a lot of new information has come to light. There has been a second, larger dump with source code and the CEO’s email. We know about “family values” activist Josh Duggar’s account on the site (for which he seems to be more apologetic than, you know, molesting his sisters). …



wonkish software dev (she/her). interested in ethical tech, algorithmic accountability, economic sociology, urban planning, social justice. big goose energy.

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