MY PERSONAL LEADERSHIP STYLES — Part 1: Self-awareness
My generation was born in the peace time of man-kind history. We grew up in the families, where our parents have been through struggling times with poorness, war, and starvation, which we might have no idea how it could be like. They had fought for us to have a better life. However, my generations have our own wars. They are the wars to join the society, to be the best, to be richer, to step on other people and be success. Or at least, that was what I have learned from school, and from those years working in business environment. Some of my friends are scare of stepping out of their comfort zones, they choose to live a simple life instead. Some decided to transform, to change their life, to be celebrities or influencers, to be managers, or just to be better.
I am the one who chose to step out of my comfort zone, to experience and to be better. In comparison to many people in the world, my life is not considered to be a tough life. However, it was not easy for a normal Asian girl in general (and specifically a Vietnamese girl) to enter the world outside and spread her wings, in order, to do everything, she wanted in her life. I always want to explore the world, to understand my abilities and improve myself to be a better person. I never doubt my ability to live my life beyond the expectation of my family and even myself.
I seek to analyze my personal leadership styles through addressing my leadership traits, skills, and experiences (this section is mentioned below). From which I can understand my current situation in personal development process. I will also analyze the deficiencies which I need to improve, in order, to develop my leadership style (this section will be mentioned in the next post).
1. My background
I was born in a traditional Vietnamese family with 3 generations living in the same house in Saigon. When I was kid, I was always trying by best to make my parents proud of me by listening to them and achieving the results they expected me to get. I was taught to think about the feeling of other people in the family before thinking of myself. I grew up with the fundamental mindset of full-filling my responsible, and make sure that I would not let anyone down. Those years in schools, I have always been the leader of my classes and my teams. Regarding my undergraduate degree and my work experience, I completed the Bachelor of Japanese Studies in the National University of Social Sciences and Humanities in 2012, with significant experience in communicating in this foreign language. I have more than 5-year experience in the business environment which was starting from a sale executive for a German company, then a business development officer as well as director assistant for the biggest software company in Vietnam. My last position was being a business development manager for a Japanese school before I came to Australia to continue my studying. Beside my studying and my main jobs, I am also a freelance singer, photographer, and writer.
2. Demonstrate personal traits and skills
Regarding my understanding, self-awareness is an on-going process to access your strong points and weak points by reflecting on other people. From understanding yourself, you can build up your core value and know how to be perceived by other people as well as learn how to respect the diversity. To demonstrate my personal traits and skills, I have been through the process of self-awareness by reviewing, and analyzing my personal experiences as well taking my previous boss’s opinion from my reference letter. According to the reference letter, my previous boss stated some of my strong points such as strong confident, charisma, honest, trustworthy and responsibility.
Moreover, I also took several personality tests to gain further understanding and contribute to my self-awareness process. One of the tests I took one year ago is the 16 personalities of Myers-Briggs (Briggs, 2017), which modified slightly from the questionnaire of Hogan and Champagne (1980). Although, I have changed a lot in my philosophy in life lately, but the second time I took the test still gave me the same result. The theory mentions 4 possible pairs of personality traits (Brigg, 2017), which are:
• Mind: Introversion (I) or Extraversion (E¬)
• Energy: Intuition (N) or Sensing (S)
• Nature: Thinking (T) or Feeling (F)
• Tactics: Judging (J) or Perceiving (P)
In some personalities, the result will add on one more pair of traits which is “Identity”: Assertive (A) or Turbulent (T). According to my result from this personality test, I have “ENFJ-A” personality, which stands for Extraversion (83%) — Intuitive (74%) — Feeling (73%)– Judging (58%) and Assertive (63%). The name for my personality is “Protagonist”, which belongs to the “Diplomats” group. Diplomats tend to be warm, caring and generous individuals with the intuitive traits plays a big part in this personality type (Brigg, Diplomats, 2017).
Regarding to the strength of Protagonist, there are 5 strengths and 5 weaknesses mentioned in the theory (Brigg, Protagonist strengths and weaknesses, 2017).
• Strength: tolerant, reliable, charismatic, altruistic, and natural leaders.
• Weaknesses: overly idealistic, too selfless, too sensitive, fluctuating self-esteem and struggle to make tough decisions.
The description of Protagonist personality is pretty accurate to my personality. Regarding my weaknesses, I notice that I am too sensitive to my surrounding people and the environment. I am also too idealistic and optimistic about the world. I am more likely to see the good side of people than focusing on their bad sides. I was influenced by my grandmother who taught me by the example of her life. She always tells me that, doing good things to people is never wrong. People could do wrong things to us, but they will take it back in another way. Therefore, I feel easy to forgive people for the bad things they did to me. Everything happens for a reason and everyone should value the lessons we could learn from those bad and good experiences.
As a reliable person, I soon showed my character since I was kid. I have never questioned the reasons I had to be there in the school, to keep following the routine of studying from 7am until 9pm every week day. All I concerned was to study hard and get the best grades, so that I could full fill the expectation of my family. It was because I understood the effort of my parents to afford me continued my studying even though my father’s company went bankrupt at that time. Family is an important part of my life, my family is my team, and I will never let them down. I also believe that loyalty and trustworthy is important element in any relationship. I am very loyal to my family, my friends and I always full fill my promises.
I am also good at getting people involve in my stories. It is one of the technique which I used to reach new customers as well as maintain good relationships with them. I believe that before making people listening to us, we should listen to them first. People are willing to let us get into their comfort zones when we show them enough respect. However, when it comes to making tough decisions, I always have serious struggling time to consume the information and consider too much about the consequences.
After the self-awareness process, I have come up with a list of my leadership traits and skills, from which I can understand my leadership styles.
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