…message or having a call with someone to gain information, think twice or even thrice about whether 1. the question you’re asking is indeed what you want the answer to, 2. have you already searched online to find more details and 3. is this question relevant to the person I’m about to ask to and is this specific enough to their expertise that they can give an answer which is unsubstantiated from pure research?
How about you? Why not invest in the best possible version of yourself? Make more time for family. Help others. Strike a balance between work and passions. Pursue a virtuous life. Do these things, and a deeper sense of contentment will wash over you.