When You Can’t Be the Person The Internet Wants You to Be
Felicia C. Sullivan

Trusting the Shoes that You Have Been Given

Sometimes someone recognizes and names a behavioral phenomenon that others would rather overlook. She lets this new understanding change her. Then she takes a stand and calls others to change as well. Felicia Sullivan’s post “When you can’t be the person . . .” highlights the human tendency to judge others. We judge to paint ourselves in a superior light. We feast on it and indulge in the dessert of gossips low stoop. It is a path of illusion. It feeds the ego’s hunger to be a seperate object assigned with exclusive value

The true path is empathy. Empathy requires us to ignore the insatiable ego and look for our common humanity. I remember judging someone saying, “I would never do that.” Yet later, my life unfolded in such a way that I had to make the very same decision. We do not live by what we know in our heart to be right because we know others will see it as wrong.

I have learned to empathize more and judge less. Lee Harper describes the importance of empathy beautifully in this quote from To Kill a Mockingbird.

“You never really know a man until you understand things from his point of view, until you climb into his skin and walk around in it.”
Lee, Harper. To Kill a Mockingbird.

Give more empathy. give less judgement. For those who are given shoes for a path that makes them vulnerable to others scorn, use it as an opportunity to look within for a sense of self that truly is immeasurable and can never be touched by others opinions. Practice trusting in that instead of the painted identities of perfection on facebook. In the end it is only you who must walk your walk. Only you can wear the shoes that you have been given. A life fully lived wears humanity with openess and a little humor in all its peaks and valleys in all its strengths and falliability.

Pieter Drummond