You can stop looking for your Life Purpose


I have searched for my life purpose for as long as I can remember. I have dug in every corner of my life and filled my shelves with “WHAT IS MY LIFE PURPOSE” books.

I have turned 46 and I still feel purposeless, what’s wrong with me? I start to suspect that some dark forces are consciously hiding my life purpose from me and probably not just me. It seems that the majority of us are getting insane in looking for their purpose, which is so well hidden that I suspect might be sitting next to the Holy Grail.

Before deepening the topic I’d like to make sure that we are all on the same page concerning the definition of LIFE PURPOSE. Many of us mistakenly identify their life purpose with their jobs, their long term goals, dreams or responsibilities: nope. Apparently your life purpose has nothing to do with all of the above, so if you have always wanted to be a fireman and you think you got your life purpose under your belt, you are wrong. Keep searching through the flames Fireman Sam. If you dream on helping homeless people or saving children in Uganda, good on you, but apparently this is not your life purpose either.

So what is it? Your genuine life purpose seems to be more specifically the very reason why you intrinsically exist.

We are back to square zero.

To be more specific, it seems that prior to coming into this life we all made a soul contract and chose our life purpose for our new journey. Sounds simple and easy so far, but alas, at birth most of us get our memory wiped out from the previous life data and in this resetting process we also loose that tiny bit of information that would have been our saviour, our anchor, our radar, our GPS: our life purpose.

We need to face the truth in order to tackle the problem: our life purpose memory gets killed at birth, in the same way as when your intestine flora gets wiped out by antibiotics and you get diarrhoea. Yes precisely, your Life Purpose has been flushed out from your system at day zero. Gone, forever! The reason why you keep searching is because they tell you that you need to have one and that there are ways to discover it. Good luck with it!

So if you start searching (I am sure you have already) you will find the most extravagant ways of getting in touch with the very reason of your existence: from long silent retreats to serious studying of ancient texts, going on a trip to Peru to indulge in some Ayahuasca ceremonies, becoming a Monk, enrolling in a 5 days workshop worth 5KGBP or listening to binaural piercing sounds for 18 hours in the comfort of your own home.

For the busy bees there are also the quick fixes: the most interesting article I have read recently swears to get you in touch with your Life Purpose in less than 20min. Here is what to do:

1. Take out a blank sheet of paper or open up a word processor where you can type (I prefer the latter because it’s faster).

2. Write at the top, “What is my true purpose in life?”

3. Write an answer (any answer) that pops into your head. It doesn’t have to be a complete sentence. A short phrase is fine.

4. Repeat step 3 until you write the answer that makes you cry. This is your purpose.

I have tried, but I did not cry. So I went on reading the article, to see if I did something wrong and the author confesses that the process might not work immediately:

“At some point during the process (typically after about 50–100 answers), you may want to quit and just can’t see it converging. You may feel the urge to get up and make an excuse to do something else. That’s normal. Push past this resistance, and just keep writing. The feeling of resistance will eventually pass. But if you persist, after 100 or 200 or maybe even 500 answers, you’ll be struck by the answer that causes you to surge with emotion”

Seems like a lot to go through, but all considered the author has discovered his incredibly original life purpose after only 106 repetitions.


Here it is: “to live consciously and courageously, to resonate with love and compassion, to awaken the great spirits within others, and to leave this world in peace”

Given his remarkable results I have chosen NOT to sit for 500 repetitions and write this article instead to save you money, time and your ears health in case you were planning to listen to binaural sounds for the rest of your day.

You see, the fact is that I don’ t own the truth or a recipe either, however my gut feeling is telling me that although all of the above techniques might be somewhat helpful to find your life purpose, there is a easier way to understand it and above all to activate it. Your life purpose can be silently revitalised within you, without the need to give it a name, yes you don’t need a label in order to live a fulfilled life.

Trust the oblivion of your mind: you were not meant to remember and you will never know. However when you will stop searching you will suddenly feel your life purpose appearing like a sweet sacred nectar on your skin, and it will never be the same, at times it will surprise you and be salty, appearing in a tear rolling from the corner of your eye. Your life purpose is lost in translation and built inside you at the same time. Every time you’ll do something with love and awareness your life purpose will light up like the Tour Eiffel in the night and shine on you, it will guide you and motivate you.

What you love is NOT your life purpose, however doing whatever you do with love and intention is the secret passage to your life purpose.

So you see… you can access your purpose by being a fireman or saving lives in Syria, but also by making the dishes after dinner, who would have thought?

Do not underestimate the power that you infuse in your actions, live each moment with awareness and your life purpose will always be present at your side. Think of it as a secret LIFE BOOSTER, similar to the one you can use in the video games, that cool thing that propels you forward at supersonic speed. Yes this means that you are allowed to free yourself from the dilemma of finding the definition of your life purpose, do as many things as you want, go into every direction you feel, as you are not meant to be only one. We can finally stop giving us labels as in: I am a Teacher/ I am a fireman/ I am a lawyer/I am a spiritual coach/ I am a housewife.

Please feel free to stop searching and start living. As for me, I am going to cook Risotto with so much love that I’ll surely pour my life purpose into it and this will make not only me, but my whole family happy.

Oh one last thing, if you are still unsatisfied and really want to give a name to your life purpose, you can always call it Bob or Maria.

Mine is called WOHO and I pour it in everything I do.

Pilli Cortese