When English indie band The 1975’s front man belted out the chorus to I Always Want To Die (Sometimes), I chuckled. It’s so absurd yet painfully true. The idea of “wanting to die” is prevalent in our everyday grumbles. Too much work? Gosh I feel like dying. Late for a meeting? Just let me die. Dinner’s not great? Omg somebody kill me now.
There’s no shortage of memes on the topic of wanting to die too.
But memes are just for laughs. Nobody is really serious about dying, right?
Most people would choose the escape route when they’re faced with an uncomfortable or dangerous situation. Dragging your feet to work? Time to consider resigning. Another angry text from your partner? Turns off notifications. Life getting the better of you? Books tickets for a beach vacation. In very subtle ways, escaping is a daily occurrence for most of us.
There are a million and one things the everyday escapist would run from. But the question remains: where are we escaping to?
Think about all the instances you’ve ran away from something. How did the situations or people make you feel? The escape we’re making is more often than not because we want to be free from pain. For most of us, our tolerance for the painful situations in life are simply too low, so each time we hit our pain threshold, we press exit. We simply don’t have the resilience to hold ourselves to the end. But the people who escape can easily justify their actions. …
Warning: Spoilers ahead*
In the latest installment of the Star Wars saga, The Rise Of Skywalker, the epic battle between the light and the dark continues. 42 years after the first film was released, we’re still captivated by how our heroes will defeat the villainous Siths to restore peace to the galaxy. And as the conflict of bloodline, destiny and choice come into play for Kylo Ren and Rey, the battle between light and dark have never been more personal and existential.
This struggle between light vs dark, good vs evil, is something that we’re all too familiar with, perhaps even more so than we’d like to admit. There’s a lot of talk about love and light, especially with the rise of New Ageism. We all want to be part of the movement towards the light. We associate the light with qualities like happiness, kindness, compassion, generosity, it’s angels, rainbows and unicorns. While we associate the dark with depression, hatred, apathy, stinginess, the work of the devil and his minions. We do everything we can to reject the dark. We sweep it under the carpet. We dismiss and deny that any of this exists within us. And even if we embody any of these dark qualities, we tell ourselves that its for the greater good. …
I’m sure we’ve all had that friend who always seemed to have the best ideas in literature or art class. They would write the most riveting stories, create the most artistic paintings, and when they’re not in class, they seem to still be tinkering away at something at home. While most of us are completely occupied memorising for exams, they always seem to have more bandwidth than others to be creative.
The underlying idea we have of being ‘creative’ is that it’s some kind of special quality that only some will possess. You first need to be at the top of your craft, as an artist, writer, designer or engineer. Then, you need to be blessed with a groundbreaking idea that can wow the crowds. …
This article is part 3 of the 2020 Goal Setting series.
In part 1 of this series, we talked about 3 things we need to consider before setting your new year resolutions, so as to increase your effectiveness levels in achieving any goal. In part 2, we then talked about the importance of being aligned to your goals.
We introduced the calculation of an Effectiveness Score in part 1 of this series.
Your Effectiveness Score
Effectiveness = Number of things you checked from your list / Total number of items on the list x 100 %
Average Effectiveness = Sum of all effectiveness score each year / Total number of…
This article is part 2 of the 2020 Goal Setting series.
In our previous article, we highlighted 3 questions you need to ask yourself before starting on the quest to accomplish your goals (in role-playing game (RPG) style):
The first point, Alignment with self, is the heftiest of the three, and also the focus of this article.
In figuring out who you need to be in order to accomplish your goals, you need to start by knowing who you are today. So the question itself is two fold. For instance, let’s say you’re usually a quiet person, and your goal this year is to receive a promotion to become a team manager. You identified that one of the things you need to work on is on being a better communicator. …
This article is part 1 of the 2020 Goal Setting series.
Year after year, we make a list of new year resolutions. We want a promotion to take home a 5 digit salary. We want to speak to 1000 people in 365 days to increase our chances of finding love. We want to start those violin lessons we’ve been holding off for 5 years. We want to go on a strict diet and exercise regime to lose weight.
On and on the list goes with an extremely detailed action plan for every specific aspect of life. And so the year goes, our workload increases with no promotion in sight. We’re too busy at work to even have dinner, much less go on dates. We never actually make it out of the office on time, and on the weekends, we’re too tired so we lay in bed using our phones. And before we know it, its December. …
‘Alien’ is who we are inside us.
Each and every one of us has a quirky, eccentric, strange, unique identity within us, made up of all the experiences we’ve had in our lives thus far.
There are parts of us even we consider to be alien, things that seem so foreign and weird that we shove it down the depths of our hearts. We want to dismiss the things that we think are alien about us.
In our society, we are so used to conforming to the different expectations being put onto us — from our partners, family, working environment, to the collective force of societal standards. We end up losing touch with our truest self. …