Playa Mates
Aug 23, 2017 · 1 min read

Some interesting perspectives in this article. It seems to me that radical self reliance was originally intended to mean to be prepared to take care of yourself in the desert, but it has evolved into some new-age philosophy that promotes the importance of self interest over others.

So while there is nothing inherently wrong with pursuing one’s interests, it should never come at the expense of someone else. Especially if that other person(s) is someone that you have agreed to be in a more committed or initiate relationship with and where there is an implicit agreement to care for the feelings of others as much as your own. This doesn’t make it a co-dependent situation, it just means that you give a shit about another person and too many people interpret the poly-lifestyle as a one-size-fits-all loophole to the typical committed relationship norm of having to constrain their own behavior when another’s feelings are concerned. Just another way to rationalize selfish behavior.

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