For most people, hating themselves comes from a long experience of other people hating on them. I am no different. The secret to not hating yourself is understanding that you’re magic — a unique individual who has his/her own unique sets of weaknesses and challenges. They are super specific to…

People had you believe you work on yourself to find someone worthy, funny, intelligent, and sexy — which basically means super intelligent. They don’t tell you there is no perfect time to date. I am looking for a partner that complements my weaknesses with their strengths, and vice-versa. It’s a…

Because you know it all. End of the story. Literally. You are making improvements but you don’t yet know why you make improvements. Nobody ever taught you this. And you need help with observing it for yourself. Let me just do that. You’re welcome! You improve because you replace old…

If I am slowing down, it feels like the opportunity cost is too high to bear. I could have taken more action, and could have made more progress. Another chapter of a book, another task that moves the needle, another delegation to take care of, another responsibility to cater to…

I was sitting alone. I was supposed to rest. I was supposed to chill. I’m on a vacation. Except I’m not able to do an extended deadline. Plus I feel so stuck in the place where I’m. My growth doesn’t feel fast enough. Of course, doing is how you make…

Getting rid of the self-hatred To me, as far as I’ve observed myself, all of my bad habits are avoidance mechanisms for some kind of painful memories. I started doing them because 1) they bring me comfort/pleasure and 2) they give me a sense of security/affection. I am not saying these may be the exact…

Understanding the process of personal growth is the key to solving big problems in your life. I love growing. When I say growing, I mean it in an internal way rather than an external way. The idea of internal growth is to not to give up on myself however challenging the situation may be. How likely I am to give up on something: a problem, a…

Life sucks. That means things are not happening according to you or worse, they are going in the opposite direction. This can be excruciating and defeating. Maybe right now putting the effort in feels worthless. We must not stand still nevertheless. Because there’s light at the end of the tunnel…

If putting the effort in is too tiresome, you don’t deserve the outcome. There’s no such thing as called ‘perfect life.’ Flawed and fallible is the truth of our existence if anything. The way to create a great craft is to express your deepest sorrows and harshest pains. …