“I learned to trust the direction the Lord was leading me and stop conforming to the plans of others…” *whoooo lawd insert rant here*

As a 24 year old, newly graduated African woman, the question that has been on almost every family member and family friend since graduated has been about marriage and kids. It’s funny because when you’re 15–20, you’re told you can’t so much as look at a guy or you might catch pregnancy (lol yes catch pregnancy 😂), drop out of school, and have to be shipped back to [insert native country here].

But once you turn 21 or graduate it’s almost like your dreams and goals no longer matter. “Yea you worked to get two degrees before the age of 25 and that’s great but… what else?”

Who you are working on becoming and where you are working on getting to takes a back seat as far as everyone else is concerned. People just want to know, “When are you going to find someone? When are you going to get married? When am I going to become a aunty?” 🙄🙄

I will admit for a while this bothered me and it frustrated me seeing and hearing my friends go through it as well. But this article really reminded me the importance of shutting out the noise and focusing on God’s will for your life and what He has to say. It doesn’t matter what your timeline is, or what others “want” for you. All that matters is, “…we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.” Romans‬ ‭8:28‬ ‭NLT‬‬

But don’t get confused, I’m still claiming that husband and those kids in the near future tho 😂😂 *rant over*