6 Non-Monogamous Dating App Reviews From Best To Worst

Non-Monogamy
Dec 31, 2018 · 6 min read

Dating is hard enough for monogamous people, and it only gets harder for the non-monogamous individual. Most established dating sites don’t cater to you, and it’s nearly impossible to identify another non-monogamous individual just by looking at them.

However, there are a few apps that have made the process at least a little bit easier. We’ve ranked the best (and worst) non-monogamous dating apps to make your dating life just a little bit easier.

Worst #6: PolyFinda

PolyFinda is a great concept. A dating app exclusively for polyamorous folks. However, the execution is far from perfect; or even good. The interface is from the turn of the century, and the signup process is long and grueling.

There’s also too much segmentation between gender, who and what you’re looking for, and what you identify as; much of which is redundant. For example, in your own profile you can indicate your relationship status as “part of a couple,” “male part of a couple,” “bisexual male part of couple,” and so on. This would normally not be an issue if they didn’t also ask you your sexual identity as well. This results in needless segmentation that removes most profiles from becoming potential matches.

These negatives resulted in a very small userbase, most of which never filled out their profile. The closest individual to me was over 4000km away. Don’t expect to find many matches here. I would recommend stearing clear of this app until it has a major overhaul.

As a side note, staying anonymous is very easy as you don’t have to display any personal information.

Website: Polyfinda

#5: Badoo

Badoo is a pretty typical dating app. It follows nearly the same structure as Tinder with a few differences, specifically in their cost structure where you can “give gifts” to profiles. There’s also a cool feature where you can match with people that you bump into in the real world through proximity to their phone.

Their interface is pretty decent, but the fact that there are absolutely no metrics to keep the focus on other non-monogamous or open minded individuals makes it a difficult app to use. Also, off topic somewhat, but it’s incredibly difficult to actually delete your account on this site. I would rate it better than Polyfinda, but bottom of the list otherwise.

Website: Badoo

#4: Bumble

Bumble has, in my opinion, the best and most beautiful user interface on the whole list. The app is very focused on respect, and women have to be the ones to initiate messages with men. This makes for a very nice experience on the app.

After filling out your profile, Bumble creates what’s almost a presentation about you that’s very engaging. This platform, in my opinion, is the best monogamous dating platform out there.

However, when it comes to non-monogamous dating the tables turn a bit. There are absolutely no options for non-monogamous dating, and very few gender options. This isn’t to say that you won’t find anyone interested or open to non-monogamy, its just that Bumble doesn’t help you along with the process.

For non-monogamous dating, I’d put Bumble solidly middle of the pack.

Website: Bumble

#3: Tinder

Tinder is the granddaddy of dating apps. If you’re at all familiar with the internet dating scene you’ve probably used, or at least heard of Tinder.

Tinder has perfected their user interface and ease of use and has probably the largest pool of profiles in the space. This can help and hurt your cause.

Due to the large userbase, it’s likely that there will be people you know outside of the internet on the platform. If you’re not out about your non-monogamous lifestyle this could be an issue. They do have a paid option to only be shown to accounts you’ve already liked, but again, this costs money.

The focus on non-monogamy is non-existent. Tinder caters to monogamous dating, and has even lagged on gender identity up until recently.

Tinder is a wide net, and it will be difficult to find people interested or even open-minded about non-monogamy on the platform. However, the overall size of the userbase practically guarantees that you will find at least one viable match.

Given the great interface and the likelihood that you will be able to find a match, I’d place Tinder in the number 3 spot for non-monogamous dating apps.

Website: Tinder

#2: OkCupid

OkCupid is a fairly standard dating app on the surface. You answer questions about your personality, interests, and values and then it serves you up profiles based on your answers.

What separates OkC from the rest is that it actually has dedicated options for non-monogamous users. You can list your sexuality, relationship status, and your relationship style and segment the users you see based on the same criteria. Given its size as an app and the ability to filter people based on relationship style, OkCupid is an amazing pick for people searching for other non-monogamous partners.

OkCupid’s downfall is its somewhat confusing user interface. It has a lot of features, but it’s sometimes hard to figure how/where to use them. After learning the platform, OkC becomes an invaluable tool for finding friends, dates, and partners.

Because of its focus on the non-monogamous community, OkCupid has a strong showing at #2 in our ranking.

Website: OkCupid

Winner #1: Feeld

Feeld has an absolutely beautiful design, even if it does get buggy when messaging on the app sometimes. It’s almost exclusively focused on non-monogamous and LGBT dating which makes for a very tailored userbase. I’ve personally been using Feeld for about a year and a half and have had a lot of success.

Feeld sets up each account through a linked Facebook account. This is a positive thing as every user has been at least verified to be a (probably) real person.

The negative side of this is that you can only upload pictures that you’ve already added to Facebook. Given the nature of the app, this can be an issue as the kind of pictures you may want on Feeld aren’t the type you’d want your grandmother to see on Facebook.

Feeld has a fairly decent userbase that is consistently growing. I generally see new people popping up in my area every other week, though it is not nearly as populated as a platform like Tinder or Bumble, though that will likely change with time.

Most every profile has been filled out to some degree and people are generally pretty engaged on the app. Feeld is definitely trying to grow the app and their active user count is on an upward trend.

Feeld has a premium feature where you can hide from Facebook friends, see who has already liked you, and get a second chance to like a profile. The features are nice, but you can use the app without them completely for free.

Currently, I would rate Feeld the #1 non-monogamous dating app just due to the tailored approach they have.

Website: Feeld

What do you think of our rankings? Like them, hate them? Leave us feedback or other apps you think we should review in the comments!

This article originally published on nonmonogamy.co

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