How travel affects your love life
Travel really changes you as a person. It builds your confidence, gives you amazing life experiences and allows you to discover what you really want from life.
But the downside of travel is that it makes it really hard to date anyone. Yes, there are passionate encounters and fleeting romances, but moving around all the time makes it difficult to hold down a relationship. Meeting someone is easy, but keeping them is hard.
When you meet someone travelling you completely skip the dating stage and go to a full blown relationship within the space of a week. Time is completely condensed; instead of going out for dinner once a week, you’re in each other’s company all the time. Meet someone in a hostel and all of a sudden your sightseeing together, you’re eating out together and doing the most incredible things together, but deep down you know the logistics would never work. They’re from one country, you’re from another. Really, it’s no more than a hook-up.
So you travel for a while but soon the bickering sets in surrounding what’s actually going to happen, until eventually it all falls apart. It’s always tempting to hold on to success stories of ‘that one friend who met her boyfriend in a hostel and now they’re engaged’ but in truth there are probably far more stories of heartbreak and failed romances that nobody talks about. I’m sure there are many, many people who’ve been heartbroken on the road.
Once you come home it’s just as hard, because somehow you don’t fit in anymore. Friends all have full time jobs, gym memberships and, you know… real lives. You, on the other hand, have had all these life experiences that make you question whether you’re able to fit in to your old life anymore. Life just isn’t going to be the same again once you’ve had the adrenaline rush of round-the-world travel. The idea of Tinder and going out to dinner seems strange, since you’re used to more exciting dates, like experiencing your first gondola ride with Joe (what’s his name?) from the hostel.
Yes travel makes the whole dating thing a little weird. I don’t regret any of my experiences on the road — in fact the stories are incredibly romantic — but it’s certainly easier to meet someone when you’re in the same place for more than 5 minutes.
They say that a test of a relationship is whether you can travel together, but it also puts a lot of stress on things and can make or break a relationship. Or perhaps that one great guy will come along who is so special that they’ll never want to stop travelling with you.