Love in a world of likes
Well the technology has done us all great good. Made us connect with our near and dear ones fast, know the whereabouts whenever we want, talk at any time and get lost in our own world when we wish to. I am loving it, exactly howI love me Spicy chicken wrap from Mc.Donald’s. Every bit different, interesting and to my taste.
We talk whom we like talking to, we dress what we like and somewhere in the process try to do that is more likeable. The situation today is such that our life revolves around all the likes, cherry picked and pasted. What we don’t realise is it has also made us long for more likes in this life. We want to be appreciated for our choice of phone, laptop, dress and life rule. I guess that’s the secret sauce that facebook is hit. We want to increase my number of likes.
However, somewhere in this process, I guess we are losing out on the things we love. Simply put, we are losing the art to love and accept love. The reason is we have surrounded ourselves so much in this race to be liked and appreciated that today when facebook introduced an emoji in addition to their normal “like” button, we just don’t know where to use it. Our body and mind is programmed to only run after a “like”.
We used to be in love, today we are out of it. The reason being, we want a space of our own,be it mother daughter relationship, boy fren gal fren relationship or marriage. We used to long to be with the one we loved, but today, we look for our space first. “My time, my choice”first and then do I make an effort to get the partner in my free time.
Where are we headed to? Thanks to my profession of leading People Operations, I get to interact with a lot of people on their lives and their likes. The problem that I have been facing with all my interactions is whenever I ask them about their love, they either talk of any picked interest or a pass time.
Love used to be synonymous to craze, passion, madness. Today it has only become a word for most of us. I don’t know if this started with intrusion of technology in our lives through an Orkut/Facebook/tinder. Somewhere, we all have lost the love that we once had for that someone special. Why? Societal pressure that has made us robots to only look for likes and never stand firm on what makes our heart beat faster on one look of that special someone? Pressure to marry the most liked prospects? Or sheer fear to be made an outcast, a shame if we don’t fall in line? I wonder. Hope, this changes soon, lest we all end up being a loner deep down with no passion, no gutsy love stories to share with our next generation, no friends to confide into, plain made up faces and bodies of branded clothes and fake emotions for that one “Like” and no “Love”.
