A message to #yesallmen
What’s this #MeToo hashtag?
This shit’s been covered by now from hundreds of angles, so this is nothing new, but I’m going to add my voice.
If you’ve been on social media anytime in the past week, you will have seen just how many women are coming forward with their own stories of sexual harassment/abuse.
Listen. Pay attention.
Pay attention to just how fucking many of your female friends have been sexually assaulted/groped/yelled at/sworn at/abused by total strangers or by people you both know.
Let it sink in.
This shit is not something that happens to other people. It’s happened to women in your life, people close to you. It’s happening to women you know.
If you’re feeling like you’re under sudden attack, please realise that it’s not about you. It’s about the culture that
- Tells us that it’s socially acceptable to yell at women in the street because they like the look of them.
- Treats grabbing a stranger’s arse as “just a bit of harmless fun”
- Makes women frightened of coming forward to report their abusers because their life choices will be microscopically examined to justify the abuse.
- Convinces people that they and their friends live in an isolated bubble of perfection where the harassment, abuse, molestation and catcalling happens to other people, not us.
Step back and look at just how many of your friends are sharing their stories. This shit is everywhere. It’s not “just a few cases”.
Chances are, someone you know has been yelled at/catcalled/groped today.