The Personal WHY Question?
A person’s “why” appears to be this elusive understanding that instigates, encourages and propels actions.
It could be called and has been referred to as purpose, calling, appointment, and potentially many other things.
This is a personal reflection.
2018 is shaping into the kind of year with big changes, revelations, epiphanies, and new possibilities on the horizon.
Seeds planted many moons ago are beginning to manifest.
It has been an intense 10 + years and I can now say I know my why……
This is a story about how I eventually became clear of its importance in my life.
I Am A Reformed DropOut
I am a doctoral school and proverbial life drop out.
I have shown up in life based on some pretty faulty reasoning.
A good portion of the time, I spent feeling like a fake.
I had got myself stuck in a Loop with a need to prove something to somebody.
So, in this life I had constructed, I was perpetually striving.
I completed four years of doctoral curriculum and produced an incomplete dissertation proposal, to call it quits.
I realized I had it all wrong, my striving for this degree and title was to prove I’m worthy.
To whom was I trying to convince my worthiness?
Again, I ask….to whom?
I am now Soooo clear on that point!
On the other hand, I also chose a self-imposed vacation.
You know, the place where comfort meets inaction.
This may seem like admissions of failure.
But, in actuality, through these experiences a stronger WHY was revealed to me.
Experience, education, and more experience have led me to believe my why is to facilitate thought to manage personal change.
I have learned to believe in myself.
I am the only one who can create a life I don’t need a vacation from.
Here are a few personal growth and development sayings I agree with wholeheartedly as I’ve experienced the revelations they embody.
“Finding WHY is a process of discovery, not invention” — Simon Sinek
Sinek presents the idea pretty clear, finding the why is a process of living and learning.
It is a never-ending, life-long engagement.
Einstein stated we gain knowledge through experience.
Experiences are the springboard to offer the opportunity to discover.
There are many challenges in the daily noise, it is easy to be distracted.
It’s time to remember.
It’s time to commit to growing.
It is about Discovery, People!
“It’s liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it” — Maya Angelou
Much effort has been put forth in endeavors to makes my heart and soul happy, I thought.
To move forward in my life has seemed all uphill at times.
Nevertheless, what I thought was my “why” has undergone a transmutation of sorts.
There is something to be said about…..self-awareness and simplicity.
I learned to make peace with my growth process.
I recognize, the extreme importance of a healthy personal mindset as instrumental in growth, change success and ultimately life.
You CAN teach an old dog New Tricks!
“At the center of your being you have the answer you know who you are and you know what you want.” — Lao Tzu
The quote says IT….. You KNOW.
What am I saying, be willing to ask the hard questions about what you want, therein lies your “why.”
The answers you seek are already within you.
And My favorite……”If you think you can or can’t, you are right” — Henry Ford
I believe we essentially all want to live a full and well life, but to take the steps to do so can sometimes seem insurmountable.
I am here to say, surmount the challenge ……CLIMB THE MOUNTAIN.
It is through this challenge you become self-aware.
I Must Remember
The recognition of my own B. S. made way to the possibilities to chose acceptance and make a real commitment to growth, informed decision-making and personal success, uncomfortable or not.
Experiences, good or bad come as a benefit, especially when I see them as a chance to learn and grow for my highest good, always.
This simply requires trust and faith in the expansion happening mentally, emotionally, and spiritually instigated by thoughts and subsequent actions.
I must remember my good comes from ….. everywhere, everyone and everything.
My Why and Perception of Success
The idea of success is a matter of perspective and extremely subjective in its nature.
Personally, I have asked myself, what is my idea of success? What does it look like to me?
Definitely, my first answer received addressed the doctoral degree I thought would make me important and impressive.
I found a willingness to ask hard and harder questions and listen for the answers to ……..be, do, and have well in my life.
The sentiment is echoed in the following quote:
I am at a point in my life where I want…..
My family happy
My faith strong
My health good
My mind right
My dollars tight & NO unnecessary drama! In that order! — Anonymous
My NOW Condition
I made an intention at the start of the year to practice conscious living.
I’ve done this in conjunction with Gay Hendricks and his book “A Year of Living Consciously.”
He supports the premise of personal discovery and poses this question…..
“what is it you pretend you know?”
I asked this question and my answer now is….. I know nothing.
This clear admission allows opportunities to present themselves to discover.
The point…..you have got to have healthy internal dialogue to live your why.
Be open, willing and flexible.
This is how to discover and evolve into our better selves.
Don’t lie to yourself.
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