From #spoonie to timelines surfer; the art of pain management

When you are a #spoonie or challenged with #chronicpain it is hard to do everything you want to do.

Gosh! It’s already hard to do everything we want without pain.

So let me teach you 2 ways to get closer to your empowered life while just focusing on 2 concepts:


In life we have different timelines; goals timelines, work timeline, health timeline, day, week, month, year and lifetime timelines.

Each one of those timeline requires our attention and intention every so often.

When you are approaching a closure in one of those timeline your mind starts to relax.

Your body was moving sometimes with more intention as a result of it. Think about the stress put on you when you have a deadline.

And how you can be exhausted afterward.

Paying attention to your timelines can help you decide how much strength, energy, effort to put into an action right now, knowing what’s coming or what’s also going on.

So what are your timelines?

Actionable: spend 5 min writing all the timelines that you decided to commit to.

What’s the order of importance?

What energy do you have today for each one of them?

Reassess of needed.


When I first heard the concept of spoon-theory I was empowered.

A single concept allowed me to visualize and organize my pre-existing knowledge into a more practical concept (read more about it:

After thinking about it I wanted to enhance it, improve it, empower people with an add-on.

I can’t help it!

I want people to get out of pain!

So the add-on was to add 3 separation to the spoon theory (and you are welcome to improve that model and comment below with some suggestion; that will help millions of people so it’s worth everybody’s time)

The 3 separation were: mind, emotion and action.

In short imagine that you have a limited number of spoon and each spoon represent an action. At the end of the day you can only do so much and your number of spoon is smaller while in pain.


What if you could have 3 times more the spoons by simply realizing that you can think about an action, you can feel what emotion this action is helping bring to life and you can simply act upon it.

Example: while I asked my daughter to put her scooter in the trunk of my car, Amelia (my daughter) was pushing hard that scooter. Forcing the storage action (the scooter was stuck as she was holding it straight). So I asked her to stop, take a deep breath and think. Then I asked her: “would you rather use your force or your mind to store that scooter? She didn’t get it as she told me she knew it was a physical action. To which I answered by showing her as I talked: “when you look at your scooter and my car trunk, see how the change in angle while holding the scooter simplify the storage?”

She then realized that taking a moment to think about the possibilities of scooter positioning could make a difference between pushing as hard as you can and simply put it without much effort in the trunk of the car.

This was also helping preventing some massive dents on my car: total bonus!

After that I told her the spoon theory and my suggestion to add 3 categories (mind, emotion, and action)

Thanks to the real life experience she understood right away that using her mind could help her use less her body.

In that example I considered pushing the scooter 2 spoons. And thinking about it and acting upon it: 1 mind spoon and 1 action spoon.

Leaving her with more action spoons after that. Allowing her for more actions.

Think about it and as I asked before comment upon it. Simplify, make it more powerful.

I don’t usually write big blogs but I thought this was worth sharing as it can share your perception of pain and how to manage your day accordingly.

What about emotions by the way?

Any action or thought leading to a positive emotion or a negative emotion is a way to super charge your transformation.

Use it to your advantage and also feel how you feel when you do something as it can be a message on the weight that this will put on your body and mind.

At the end of the day, able to only do that much it’s important to feel how your day was for you: useful or not. Difficult in action but easy emotionally; definitively is a bonus rather than difficult emotionally and physically.

Giving you more juice, more possibilities.

What concept help you with pain resilience?

How do you manage your day more powerfully?

How do you handle the difficult days?

Please share below as I know each comment can help another person have a life a little better.

Thanks for reading

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