How To “Earn” Your Child’s Total Attention — When You Need It the Most!

Let me teach you the most critical skill I’ve learned from martial arts and 25 years of working with kids and families

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Photo from Ben White on Unsplash, text added by David Jurasek

“How do I get them to pay attention…

…to what they’re supposed to be doing…

…and show respect to…

to me… to their teacher…whoever matters?

Why this is “The” Most Important Lesson…

Having the ability to summon your child’s full attention — when it’s really needed — opens the door to everything else — trust, love, and especially you being able to influence them in the best ways possible.

Wait! You need me to back it up a step?

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Photo courtesy of Caleb Woods (Unsplash) with titles by David Jurasek

Curious about the root cause of why as parents we find it so incredibly hard to get our kids’ attention these days?

You can go back here (on Medium) to read part 1 of this series to find out.

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To “ALIGN” means to willingly turn towards

others to face them with more presence.

“ALIGNING” in the context of physical conflict

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The Everyday Context

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So, how do we actually “ALIGN”?

STEP 1: Set up a Cue

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“…your attention, please.”

STEP 2: Make the Invitation

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STEP 3: Respond Accordingly

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HOW to inspire and compel them to WANT to reciprocate our invitation…

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My daughter shows us how it’s done!

My dare to you…

Emotions trump reason, good intentions and even — at times — our will power.

The biggest barrier parents should expect

Invest the time and courage it will take to make change…

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Pic by David Jurasek of Martial Art of Parenting

“Our kids do not have the power to reject or disrespect us… unless we give them that power.”

P.S. ~ There is no opt-in to get access.

P.P.S. ~ Thank you for giving me your full attention and respect.

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