Being Invincible — It’s all about a choice

How often do the following situations stop you from achieving your goals and being your best most productive self?!

Someone did not believe in your idea or mocked your aspirations.
You had an argument with your boyfriend/ girlfriend/ family member.
People at work are giving you a hard time.
Your boss is making your life miserable.
A friend or more like a frenemy said something really nasty about you.

These things hit us hard and our emotions take us on a downward spiral of negativity and self-doubt.

But what if we could be invincible to all these issues and solely concentrate on what is truly important for our personal growth and life purpose?
All success starts with mastering the mind. And with practice, we can all learn to master our emotions and achieve everything we strive for.

There was a time when people constantly judged me because of my weight. I suffered from major self-esteem issues and got into all the wrong relationships. I let others get the best of me and I craved for approval from others. In the depths of my despair of low confidence, I knew I could not go on like this. During my time of introspection, I created a model of sorts to help me deal with my situation and be invincible to all the negativity around me. It really helped me at the time and still does.

I like to call it ‘The Model of Invincibility’. It is pretty simple. But requires conscious effort to make a change.

Imagine a sphere of a powerful energy around you. A protective bubble of sorts. Nothing can break that bubble unless you let it. In this sphere lies everything that you want to achieve in life. You need to define your ‘What’.

What is your life ambition? What are you passionate about? What are the habits you want to inculcate this year? What are your short-term and long-term goals? What are your hobbies/ interests? Your ‘What’ refers to everything that will fuel you to become the best version of yourself.

In the next sphere, define your ‘Who’. This is a tricky one. Be very careful as to whom you let in into this circle. Make a list of people you are closest to and who bring out the best in you. They are always there to support you. Invest your time and energy in maintaining such relationships.

Be with people who are worthwhile. Do away with all the leeches. Anyone who gives you a hard time or makes you feel less than worthy does not deserve to be in this sphere. Even if it’s your boyfriend/ girlfriend or a family member. If they constantly drain you out and occupy all your mental space; out they go.

These 2 spheres are your sources of power. Do not let anything or anyone break that.

Now that you have defined everything that is of importance to you, anything and everything that does not fall in either of the spheres do not deserve your attention, time and tears.

So why bother about the menial things in life? Why bother about what X, Y and Z says or thinks about you? Why bother about the things that you cannot change and are out of your control?

Stop letting others affect you to a point where you forget your priorities.
 At every stage make a conscious choice. A conscious choice to concentrate on what’s important and be invincible to bullshit!

When you know what’s important to you it’s a lot easier to forget what bothers you.